THIS IS A FABULOUS ARTICLE NOW IN A BOOK AS WELL BECAUSE IT CAPTURED THE HEARTS OF MANY PEOPLE, AND STILL DOES (her article or her book). WHATEVER YOU DO, DON'T MISS THIS - IT IMPARTS HOPE, IT INSPIRES MOTIVATION, THERE ARE PRINCIPLES EVERYONE CAN PRACTICE.
Amy, a Social Worker and Psychologist, experienced several family tragedies, including the death of a husband, her mother, and later her next husband’s father. She wrote the mentally strong article just as much for herself as for her readers.
After her article was published on Lifehack, she received a notice that was sent to all contributors — "Do not submit any new articles because the site is receiving much more traffic than normal!" Amy didn’t realize it at the time, but it was her article that triggered the wave of traffic.
Now in a book “13 things mentally strong people don’t do” Amy gives tips, exercises and excellent advice on increasing our mental strength which can change our entire attitude:
- They don’t waste time feeling sorry for themselves.
“Self pity is easily the most destructive of the non-pharmaceutical narcotics; it is addictive, gives momentary pleasure and separates the victim form reality” – John Gardner. - They don’t give away their power.
“When we hate our enemies, we are giving them power over us; power over our sleep, our appetites, our blood pressure, our health, and our happiness” – Dale Carnegie - They don’t shy away from change.
“It’s not that some people have willpower and some don’t.. It’s that some people are rest to change and others are not” – James Gordon - They don’t focus on things they can’t control.
“You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them” – Maya Angelou - They don’t worry about pleasing everyone.
“Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoners” – Lao Tzu. - They don’t fear taking calculated risks.
“Don’t be too timid and squeamish about your actions. All life is an experiment. The more experiments you make, the better” – Ralph Waldo Emerson - They don’t dwell on the past.
“We do not heal the past by dwelling there; we heal the past by living fully in the present” – Marianne Williamson - They don’t make the same mistakes over and over.
“The only real mistake is the one from which we learn nothing” – John Powell - They don’t resent other people’s success.
“Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies” – Nelson Mandela - They don’t give up after the first failure.
“Failure is part of the process of success. People who avoid failure also avoid success” – Robert T. Kiyosaki - They don’t fear alone time.
“All man’s miseries derive from not being able to sit quietly in a room alone” – Blaise Pascal - They don’t feel the world owes them anything.
“Don’t go around acting the world owes you a living. The world owes you nothing. It was first here” – Robert Jones Burdette - They don’t expect immediate results.
“Patience, persistence and perspiration make an unbeatable combination for success” – Napoleon Hill
Subtitles In This Book Are:
REPLACE THOUGHTS THAT ENCOURAGE SELF-PITY
EXCHANGE SELF-PITY FOR GRATITUDE
GIVING UP SELF-PITY WILL MAKE YOU STRONGER
THE PROBLEM WITH GIVING AWAY YOUR POWER
RECLAIM YOUR POWER
IDENTIFY PEOPLE WHO HAVE TAKEN YOUR POWER
THINK BEFORE YOU REACT
RECOGNIZE YOUR CHOICES
TAKING BACK YOUR POWER WILL MAKE YOU STRONGER
READINESS FOR CHANGE
THE FIVE STAGES OF CHANGE
DEVELOP AN AWARENESS OF YOUR EMOTIONS
MANAGE NEGATIVE THOUGHTS
EMBRACING CHANGE WILL MAKE YOU STRONGER
WHY WE TRY TO CONTROL EVERYTHING
THE PROBLEM WITH WASTING ENERGY
ON THINGS YOU CAN’T CONTROL
FOCUS ON WHAT YOU CAN CONTROL
INFLUENCE PEOPLE WITHOUT TRYING TO CONTROL THEM
PRACTICE ACCEPTANCE
GIVING UP CONTROL WILL MAKE YOU STRONGER
PEOPLE-PLEASING SIGNS
THE PROBLEM WITH PEOPLE PLEASING
PEOPLE PLEASING DAMAGES RELATIONSHIPS
PEOPLE PLEASERS LOSE SIGHT OF THEIR VALUES
AVOID PEOPLE PLEASING
DETERMINE WHO YOU WANT TO PLEASE
CLARIFY YOUR VALUES
TAKE TIME TO DECIDE WHETHER TO SAY YES OR NO
PRACTICE BEHAVING ASSERTIVELY
ACCEPTING THAT YOU CAN’T PLEASE
EVERYONE MAKES YOU STRONGER
THE PROBLEM WITH DWELLING ON THE PAST
SHIFT YOUR THINKING
MAKE PEACE WITH THE PAST
HOW MAKING PEACE WITH THE PAST
WILL MAKE YOU STRONGER
THE PROBLEM WITH REPEATING OUR MISTAKES
STUDY THE MISTAKE
CREATE A PLAN
PRACTICE SELF-DISCIPLINE
LEARNING FROM MISTAKES WILL MAKE YOU STRONGER
THE PROBLEM WITH RESENTING OTHER PEOPLE’S SUCCESS
YOUR VIEW OF OTHER PEOPLE ISN’T ACCURATE
MOVE FORWARD AFTER FAILURE
BOUNCING BACK AFTER FAILURE WILL MAKE YOU STRONGER
WHY WE AVOID BEING ALONE
THE PROBLEM WITH FEARING SOLITUDE
HOW EMBRACING ALONE TIME WILL MAKE YOU STRONGER
I heard an Audio of Amy sharing her Story about 12 months ago, and can recall her saying to herself, it was time to put into practice personally, advice she was giving her patients.
Amy certainly has a wealth of new Insights in addition to her training in Social Work and Psychology.
Thought I would bring her book to my Readers attention. You can find this title on Amazon Australia along with a few other books by her. Every so often, I find an article by her on the Internet.
Maybe you can request for one or two books written by her to be brought into your local Library. It would certainly help a lot of people. She also has a really good book for Parents.
Thousands have been helped by her, maybe you too, can do the same.