You Will Gain Special Insights On How Children Think And Feel On This Page. You Will Also Know Some Parents Strategies And Some Kid's Strategies. Here Is A Good Time To Look At Our Values As Well, Hey?
TEN COMMITMENTS FOR PARENTS
- I will always love and respect my child for who he/she is and not who I want him to be.
- I will give my child space - to grow, to dream, to succeed, and even, sometimes, to fail.
- I will create a loving home environment and show my child that he/she is loved, whenever and however and however I can.
- I will, when discipline is necessary, let my child know that I disapprove of what he/she does, not who he is.
- I will set limits for my child and help her find security in the knowledge of what is expected of him/her.
- I will make time for my child and cherish our moments together, realizing how important - and fleeting - they are.
- I will not burden my child with emotions and problems he is not equipped to deal with, remembering that I am the parent and he/she is the child.
- I will encourage my child to experience the world and all its possibilities, guiding him/her in its ways and taking the effort to make him/her careful, but not fearful.
- I will take care of myself physically and emotionally so that I can be there for my child when he/she needs me.
- I will try to be the kind of person I want my child to grow up to be - loving, fair-minded, moral, giving and hopeful.
~~ Author Unknown ~~
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Grandmother-grandchild relationships are simple.
Grandmas are short on critique and long on love.
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Important things to say to your Child
1) I love you and I always will, there's nothing that can change that.
2) How can I help you? We will get things done. I know you can do this by yourself. I'm happy to help.
3) You're more clever than you think Look what you just did?
4) You amaze me sometimes, I look at you and wonder.
5) Others are important too, we must let them have their turn.
6) It's alright to cry sometimes. It's good for us but not too much. Let's have happy tears too.
7) I like the way you laugh and smile, I enjoy the things you do.
8) You are important to me and you are very special.
9) I'm sorry, I made a mistake. Will you please forgive me?
10) You decide instead of me....this is your turn.
11) What do you think? I'm interested to know.
12) I have a surprise for you, for no reason. You did not do anything for this but I'm giving it to you.
13) What a great idea, you're really thinking. How did you think of that?
14) I miss you sometimes too. I like it when we are together. Let's have some together time!
15) Tell me about your day. I'd like to hear more....I'll listen.
16) It's Good to share and be Care-bears....hey?
17) That's a good idea....you have some good ideas!
18) Sorry sweetie/matey...I know better this time.
19) You are so kind and thoughtful. I really appreciate you.
20) I love you for the person you are - not just the things you do.
21) You made a mistake. That was wrong. Sometimes people make mistakes.
I do too.
22) I can wait, we have time. You don't have to hurry this time.
23) You did the right thing - that was not easy. I'm proud of you..
24) It's good to mix. Sometimes we lead and sometimes we follow. Let's be happy with both.
25) God is always with you when I'm not. He's very close.
~~ Author Unknown ~~
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There are little eyes upon you and they're watching night and day.
There are little ears that quickly take in every word you say.
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Memo from Your Child
1. Don't spoil me. I know quite well that I ought not have all that I ask for, I'm only testing you.
2. Don't be afraid to be firm with me, I prefer it. It makes me feel more secure.
3. Don't let me form bad habits, I have to rely on you to detect them in the early stages.
4. Don't make me feel smaller than I am, It only makes me behave foolishly big.
5. Don't correct me in front of people if you can help it.
6. Don't make me feel that my mistakes are sins, it upsets my set of values.
7. Don't be upset when I say "I hate you", it's not you I hate, but your power to hinder.
8. Don't protect me from consequences, I need to learn sometimes.
9. Don't nag, if you do I will need to protect myself by appearing deaf.
10. Don't make rash promises, remember I feel badly let down when promises are broken.
11. Don't tax my honesty too much, I am easily frightened into telling lies.
12. Don't be inconsistent, that completely confuses me and makes me lose faith in you.
13. Don't tell me my fears are silly, they are very real to me and you can do much to reassure me if you try to understand.
14. Don't ever suggest that you are perfect or infallible. It gives me to greater dismay when I discover that you are neither.
15. Don't forget that I can't thrive without lots of love and understanding, but I don't need to tell you that, do I?
~Author Unknown~
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Remember that a child is a gift from God, the richest of all blessings.
Do not attempt to mold him/her in the image of yourself.
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THE PARENT'S PLEDGE
- I will set a good example for my child.
- I will show my children I love them every day through words and physical affection.
- I will listen to my children and let them know I value what they say.
- I will praise my child's accomplishments and efforts towards those accomplishments.
- I will have realistic expectations for my children.
- I will allow them to make their own mistakes and learn from those experiences.
- I will avoid being too critical or focusing on my child's shortcomings.
- I will encourage my child to meet new challenges and have new experiences.
- I will respect my children as individuals even if I don't always agree with them.
- I will enjoy my children and make time to share interests and appreciate one another.
- I will love my children unconditionally.
- I will let them know they are lovable, worthwhile and valuable human beings.
~~ Author Unknown ~~
What to say to children instead of ‘be careful’
How can the words we choose when talking to children outdoors
encourage skills such as observation and self-reliance?
Foster awareness by saying
- Notice how… these rocks are slippery, the log is rotten, that branch is strong
- Do you see… the nettles over there, your friends nearby?
- Try moving… your feet slowly, carefully, quickly, strongly
- Can you hear… the rushing water, the singing birds, the wind?
- Do you feel… stable on that rock, the heat from the fire?
Encourage problem-solving by saying
- What’s your plan… if you climb that boulder, cross that log?
- What can you use… to get across the stream, for your adventure?
- Where will you… put that rock, climb that tree, dig that hole?
- How will you…. get down, go up, get across?
- Who will… be with you, go with you?
Josée Bergeron from Canada
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If your Child/Children has Disturbing OR Difficult to Manage Behavior
You may Like to Check these Areas:
So many Kids have Insufficient SLEEP these days. Try to Ensure Earlier Nights.
Some TV Programs (even for Kids) can actually Teach Kids Bad Behavior.
Lack of Nutrients can cause undesirable behavior - too many Heat n Eat Meals Etc
Try to have more REAL FOOD Meals and Wholesome Meals, at least once a day.
There is a special Tablet or Spray called Kali Phosphate you can give Fretful or
Nervous Kids that is available from Health Stores that may help considerably.
Also, our Child/Children need to have some Nourishing Interest shown in them,
some Undivided Attention. So many Parents get so busy with Work, TV Viewing
and Tech Devices and a Child can feel Ignored and Insecure. This can Change.
Believe it or not, Food Dyes are responsible for Unbelievable Behavior. Click HERE