By David and Daniela Naidu
THESE ARE GOOD QUALITIES TO QUIZ OURSELVES ON AND PRACTICE. ALSO TO BRING OUR KIDS UP WITH. WE ARE LIVING IN A 2ND AND 3RD GENERATION OF BUSY WORKING PARENTS - MANY OF US HAVE MISSED OUT ON HAVING PARENTS WHO EXPRESSED THEMSELVES LIKE THIS WITH US. AND MAYBE WE HAVE NOT THOUGHT OF INSTILLING THESE PRINCIPLES INTO OUR KIDS. AS THE ADAGE SAYS "BETTER LATE THAN NEVER'' FOR US ALL TO EXPERIENCE THESE PRECIOUS TRAITS. THEY ARE GOOD WAYS TO EXPERIENCE GOOD QUALITY FRIENDSHIPS TOO.
I JUST LOVE THIS ARTICLE AND WOULD LIKE TO ENCOURAGE YOU TO READ IT
AND SELECT A FEW THINGS TO TRY, HEY?
Almost everyone in this world likes to be in the company of a nice person. Nice people are a joy to be around, they inspire others and make the people they are with feel good about themselves. People who are nice have good friends.
Be Punctual
Being punctual for an appointment is one important way to be a nicer person. It
demonstrates to the other person that you have respect for his or her time. It
shows that you have discipline, are responsible, trustworthy, and that you keep
your word. Nobody likes to be kept waiting by a tardy person and, therefore, we
should not do it to others.
Don’t Be Critical
One of the ways to become a nicer person is to be less judgemental and critical
of others and certain situations. Always try to look at the brighter side of
things and refrain from criticism and voicing displeasure. There will always be
situations and people that are less than ideal in our minds, but it does no
good to constantly criticize because it only reinforces negativity.
Smile and Laugh
Frequent smiling and laughing makes you a more pleasant person to be around. I
am talking about genuine, heart-felt smiling and laughing. It demonstrates
optimism, happiness, and an overall pleasantness that is contagious.
Don’t Talk About Yourself As Much
We all love the sound of our own voice, but that does not mean we should
indulge in self-glorification and monopolizing a conversation. After all, true
communication is a dialogue and not a monologue. It is perfectly alright to
tell others about our lives, feelings and accomplishments in order to let
others get to truly know and understand us. However, too many people do this
excessively.
Be Able to Laugh at Yourself
Develop the habit of not taking yourself too seriously and being able to
laugh at yourself. It shows others that you are not egotistical and It is
a virtue that others greatly appreciate those who can do this sometimes.
Say Please and Thank You
It might seems obvious, but many people in this world seem oblivious to the
power of proper manners, specifically, saying ‘please’ and ‘thank you’. Being
polite is one of the easiest and most effective ways to become a nicer person.
It shows others that you are appreciative of them and their help or efforts. In
fact, it is almost impossible to say ‘please’ and ‘thank you’ too much.
Apologize Sincerely
Everyone makes mistakes in life. It is important to note that it is part of a
learning process in life. We upset and hurt others, we fall short of
expectations and sometimes make bad choices. In such cases, it is essential
that we apologize sincerely to others for our mistakes and express genuine
regret. It is not a sign of a weakness. Rather, it demonstrates strength and
humility. And it makes you a nicer person.
Be Honest, Don’t Embellish
One of the most fundamental qualities of a nice person is honesty. Nobody likes
or respects a dishonest person or one who embellishes. Too many people
exaggerate when describing their experiences and accomplishments. In the end,
people will see right through it and lose trust and respect for that person. So
do not try to impress others by lying or inflating your achievements. Always be
honest with your words and actions and keep someone’s respect.
Pay Compliments
Learning to pay others sincere compliments is a great way to be a nicer person.
Everyone has qualities and accomplishments that deserve to be recognized.
Having the ability to offer genuine praise when it is deserved makes the other
person feel great about themselves. It
exhibits the ability to see goodness in others and makes others want to be
around you more.
Help Others
Kindness and the willingness to help others go a long way in this world.
Everyone needs some form of help in their lives at some point. Always be
forthcoming when someone needs help because helping someone else makes this
world a better place. You will make a difference in that person’s life. It
is a nice thing to do!
Remember People’s Names
It has been said that a person’s name is the sweetest sound to him or her. It
is, therefore, important to remember other people’s names. Many people get hurt
or upset if you do not remember their name because it makes it seem as if he or
she is not important enough to you. Make it a point to register and recall
names by saying their name out loud when introduced.
Make Polite Gestures
Courteous gestures and actions go a long way in showing others that you are
polite and care about them.
Be Giving and Sharing
Nice people are generous with their time and their possessions. Offering others
small and thoughtful gifts is one way show your kindness.
People really notice kind gestures, especially when you do not expect anything in return.
Write Personal or Thank You Notes/Emails/Texts
This step goes a long way in helping you become a nicer person and ingratiating
others. Write thank you notes, cards, letters, emails, texts and online
messages as often as possible. If you visit someone’s home for dinner, write
that person a thank you message or note. It will not go unnoticed.
Be Affectionate
Whenever appropriate, be affectionate with others to show them that you care.
It could be a simple handshake, a pat on the shoulder, a hug, or a kiss. The
key is knowing what kind of affection is appropriate with that person because
you do not want to make him or her uncomfortable. If done correctly, affection
draws someone closer to you because it releases oxytocin, reduces stress, and
makes people feel better overall.
Be Humble
Humility is a quality in that everyone admires and respects, so always be
humble and make a conscious effort to be unpretentious.
Stop Complaining, Giving Excuses, Blaming Others
All of us have, at one time or another, encountered a person who seems to
complain and blame external factors incessantly. They find excuses for anything
that does not go their way and never take personal responsibility. Nobody
enjoys being around such a person, with the exception of other negative people.
If it rains on a certain day when you were expecting it to be sunny, find the
beauty and virtue in the rain rather than complain about it. It also will make you a happier person.
Encourage Others
Always try to be encouraging with others. Nobody enjoys disparaging comments
and being discouraged. You will find that people appreciate your
encouragement and reciprocate it.
Try Other’s Interests/Activities
All of us have our own personal interests and hobbies. While you may enjoy THIS,
others may enjoy THAT. While you do not need to share another person’s passion,
expanding your horizons by trying new activities and hobbies makes you a more
interesting person. People are grateful when you take a sincere interest in
their activities. In return, they will take an interest in yours.
Respect Others and Their Opinions
We all have our own opinions on different subjects. Others may not always agree
with you, and you certainly will not always agree with them. One of the ways to
be a nicer person is to respect the opinions of others even if you do not agree
with them. Harmonious diversity is what makes this world an interesting and
beautiful place.
Love Yourself and Be Less Sensitive to Criticism
If you are secure about and love yourself, you will not think it is the end of
the world if someone is critical of you or your actions. Try to be less
sensitive about the criticism of others and do not react rashly. Thank that
person for their input, evaluate it objectively and move on.
Make Time For Others
The most precious commodity you can give others is time. Everyone in this
world, rich or poor, has been given 24
hours in a day. Therefore, affording others some of your valuable time is one
of the greatest gifts you can give. Making the time to enjoy a meal with a
friend or helping them in some way. teaching a person a new skill will go a
long way in showing others that you truly care about them.
Be Fully Present For Others
When you are spending time with friends and family, be mindful and fully present. One of the best ways to show others that you care about them is by giving them your undivided attention. If you are having dinner with a friend, mute your cell phone and stop checking it. It can wait. If you are speaking with a friend, look them in the eye and focus on them. Be a good listener and do not dilute your attention with other concerns.
from SkilledAtLife.Com
Janet's Comments:
So much of the above agrees with me and some of my principles for living are there. Cannot thank this couple enough for the benefits they are bringing mankind with an article like this. Hope you enjoyed!