THESE ARE GOOD QUALITIES TO QUIZ OURSELVES ON AND PRACTICE. ALSO TO BRING OUR KIDS UP WITH. WE ARE LIVING IN A 2ND AND 3RD GENERATION OF BUSY WORKING PARENTS - MANY OF US HAVE MISSED OUT ON HAVING PARENTS WHO EXPRESSED THEMSELVES LIKE THIS WITH US. AND MAYBE WE HAVE NOT THOUGHT OF INSTILLING THESE PRINCIPLES INTO OUR KIDS. AS THE ADAGE SAYS "BETTER LATE THAN NEVER'' FOR US ALL TO EXPERIENCE THESE PRECIOUS TRAITS. THEY ARE GOOD WAYS TO EXPERIENCE GOOD QUALITY FRIENDSHIPS TOO.
By David and Daniela Naidu
I JUST LOVE THIS ARTICLE AND WOULD LIKE TO ENCOURAGE YOU TO READ IT AND SELECT A FEW THINGS TO TRY, HEY?
Almost everyone in this world likes to be in the company of a nice person. Nice people are a joy to be around, they inspire others and make the people they are with feel good about themselves. People who are nice have good friends.
Being punctual for an appointment is one important way to be a nicer person. It demonstrates to the other person that you have respect for his or her time. It shows that you have discipline, are responsible, trustworthy, and that you keep your word. Nobody likes to be kept waiting by a tardy person and, therefore, we should not do it to others.
Don’t Be Critical
One of the ways to become a nicer person is to be less judgemental and critical of others and certain situations. Always try to look at the brighter side of things and refrain from criticism and voicing displeasure. There will always be situations and people that are less than ideal in our minds, but it does no good to constantly criticize because it only reinforces negativity.
Smile and Laugh
Frequent smiling and laughing makes you a more pleasant person to be around. I am talking about genuine, heart-felt smiling and laughing. It demonstrates optimism, happiness, and an overall pleasantness that is contagious.
Don’t Talk About Yourself As Much
We all love the sound of our own voice, but that does not mean we should indulge in self-glorification and monopolizing a conversation. After all, true communication is a dialogue and not a monologue. It is perfectly alright to tell others about our lives, feelings and accomplishments in order to let others get to truly know and understand us. However, too many people do this excessively.
Be Able to Laugh at Yourself
Develop the habit of not taking yourself too seriously and being able to laugh at yourself. It shows others that you are not egotistical and It is a virtue that others greatly appreciate those who can do this sometimes.
Say Please and Thank You
It might seems obvious, but many people in this world seem oblivious to the power of proper manners, specifically, saying ‘please’ and ‘thank you’. Being polite is one of the easiest and most effective ways to become a nicer person. It shows others that you are appreciative of them and their help or efforts. In fact, it is almost impossible to say ‘please’ and ‘thank you’ too much.
Everyone makes mistakes in life. It is important to note that it is part of a learning process in life. We upset and hurt others, we fall short of expectations and sometimes make bad choices. In such cases, it is essential that we apologize sincerely to others for our mistakes and express genuine regret. It is not a sign of a weakness. Rather, it demonstrates strength and humility. And it makes you a nicer person.
Be Honest, Don’t Embellish
One of the most fundamental qualities of a nice person is honesty. Nobody likes or respects a dishonest person or one who embellishes. Too many people exaggerate when describing their experiences and accomplishments. In the end, people will see right through it and lose trust and respect for that person. So do not try to impress others by lying or inflating your achievements. Always be honest with your words and actions and keep someone’s respect.
Learning to pay others sincere compliments is a great way to be a nicer person. Everyone has qualities and accomplishments that deserve to be recognized. Having the ability to offer genuine praise when it is deserved makes the other person feel great about themselves. It exhibits the ability to see goodness in others and makes others want to be around you more.
Kindness and the willingness to help others go a long way in this world. Everyone needs some form of help in their lives at some point. Always be forthcoming when someone needs help because helping someone else makes this world a better place. You will make a difference in that person’s life. It is a nice thing to do!
Remember People’s Names
It has been said that a person’s name is the sweetest sound to him or her. It is, therefore, important to remember other people’s names. Many people get hurt or upset if you do not remember their name because it makes it seem as if he or she is not important enough to you. Make it a point to register and recall names by saying their name out loud when introduced.
Make Polite Gestures
Courteous gestures and actions go a long way in showing others that you are polite and care about them.
Be Giving and Sharing
Nice people are generous with their time and their possessions. Offering others small and thoughtful gifts is one way show your kindness.
People really notice kind gestures, especially when you do not expect anything in return.
Write Personal or Thank You Notes/Emails/Texts
This step goes a long way in helping you become a nicer person and ingratiating others. Write thank you notes, cards, letters, emails, texts and online messages as often as possible. If you visit someone’s home for dinner, write that person a thank you message or note. It will not go unnoticed.
Whenever appropriate, be affectionate with others to show them that you care. It could be a simple handshake, a pat on the shoulder, a hug, or a kiss. The key is knowing what kind of affection is appropriate with that person because you do not want to make him or her uncomfortable. If done correctly, affection draws someone closer to you because it releases oxytocin, reduces stress, and makes people feel better overall.
Humility is a quality in that everyone admires and respects, so always be humble and make a conscious effort to be unpretentious.
Stop Complaining, Giving Excuses, Blaming Others
All of us have, at one time or another, encountered a person who seems to complain and blame external factors incessantly. They find excuses for anything that does not go their way and never take personal responsibility. Nobody enjoys being around such a person, with the exception of other negative people. If it rains on a certain day when you were expecting it to be sunny, find the beauty and virtue in the rain rather than complain about it. It also will make you a happier person.
Always try to be encouraging with others. Nobody enjoys disparaging comments and being discouraged. You will find that people appreciate your encouragement and reciprocate it.
Try Other’s Interests/Activities
All of us have our own personal interests and hobbies. While you may enjoy THIS, others may enjoy THAT. While you do not need to share another person’s passion, expanding your horizons by trying new activities and hobbies makes you a more interesting person. People are grateful when you take a sincere interest in their activities. In return, they will take an interest in yours.
Respect Others and Their Opinions
We all have our own opinions on different subjects. Others may not always agree with you, and you certainly will not always agree with them. One of the ways to be a nicer person is to respect the opinions of others even if you do not agree with them. Harmonious diversity is what makes this world an interesting and beautiful place.
Love Yourself and Be Less Sensitive to Criticism
If you are secure about and love yourself, you will not think it is the end of the world if someone is critical of you or your actions. Try to be less sensitive about the criticism of others and do not react rashly. Thank that person for their input, evaluate it objectively and move on.
Make Time For Others
The most precious commodity you can give others is time. Everyone in this world, rich or poor, has been given 24 hours in a day. Therefore, affording others some of your valuable time is one of the greatest gifts you can give. Making the time to enjoy a meal with a friend or helping them in some way. teaching a person a new skill will go a long way in showing others that you truly care about them.
Be Fully Present For Others
When you are spending time with friends and family, be mindful and fully present. One of the best ways to show others that you care about them is by giving them your undivided attention. If you are having dinner with a friend, mute your cell phone and stop checking it. It can wait. If you are speaking with a friend, look them in the eye and focus on them. Be a good listener and do not dilute your attention with other concerns.
So much of the above agrees with me and some of my principles for living are there. Cannot thank this couple enough for the benefits they are bringing mankind with an article like this. Hope you enjoyed!