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Category: Simple Psychology/Lifeskills

Nothing too serious. This is what I call Simple Psychology. There are some Interesting things I find plus some Life Skill discoveries I make from time to time when Researching. They can be Life-Changing.

Published on Leave a comment on 10 Clever Phrases To Put A Manipulator Back In Their Place

Many of us have had experiences with one of these people in recent years. There seems to be a lot more of them, so we should all be prepared how to recognise and handle them. Are to ready? Some of you who have had experiences will Sigh Relief and others will Laugh because some of these are Funny and they can be Effective. Shall we read what Lachlan Brown has to say? He is a good Writer with lots of Solutions on different Topics.

Navigating the world of manipulation is a tricky business. We’ve all come across those who seek to control us through their cunning words and hidden intentions.

But don’t fret, because we hold the power to put them in their place.

In my experience, having the right phrases at your disposal can help you stand your ground against a manipulator. These aren’t just words; they’re mini shields of self-protection.

Let’s get started.

1) “Let’s clarify your intentions”

In dealing with manipulators, clarity is your best ally.

Manipulators thrive on ambiguity and confusion. They weave their web of deceit by making things unclear or by leaving things unsaid.

Therefore, a powerful phrase to use against a manipulator is to ask for clarification of their intentions.…

Published on Leave a comment on Did You Know That Having A Pet Is Good For Our Mental Health? 6 Reasons!

Hi Folks, I had a lot of time on my hands 20 Years ago and I can see the benefit having a Nice little Pet would be for someone with Disturbed Thoughts of some kind - which Mental Health presents us with often. People often feel Lonely or Bored too, and experiencing Unconditional Love from a Pet that shows affection could be a really Uplifting Experience for them. And this could possibly also serve to snap some people out of episodes of Rumination. I have a Nice Neighbour who really Loves her Bow Wow......she takes him for 15-30 Minute Walks through a Small Park in front of my house and a few streets each day. It makes him very happy. And they love to sit together in her Living Room and play together.

6 Reasons A Pet Is Good For Your Mental Health

By Andrea Karr - Canadian Living

Their cute factor isn't the only thing they have going for them.

If you have a pet—especially one of the furry variety—you're probably familiar with the surge of love you feel when she curls up next to you. Or the way petting his head and feeling his soft fur under your fingertips makes a stressful work day fade into the distance.…

Published on Leave a comment on How To Spot Someone Who Is Kind Outwardly And Mean Inwardly

These People are not necessarily Narcs (Narcissistic) but obviously have had Inside Issues in their upbringing - they were not brought up appropriately with the Love and Discipline and Attention every Child Needs and they grow up with those Issues unaddressed and unfixed. By the time they have Grown Up, those Unresolved Issues have worked their way into that Person's Character and accounts for the way they Behave with and towards others.

So many Couples have Babies who are nowhere near Ready to Bring Up Kids. And many of us need to Heal from things in Our Upbringing before we consider bringing Children into this World.

People Who Are Kind On The Surface But Mean Underneath
Often Display These 7 Specific Behaviors
by Justin Brown – Ideapod

Beneath the veneer of Kindness with some people, an undercurrent of Meanness can lurk. This paradox often confounds us, as we grapple with the question: how can someone appear so charming, yet behave so destructively?

The Answer Lies In Subtle Behaviors

It’s not about demonizing people, but rather understanding their complexities. And it starts with acknowledging that kindness isn’t always what it seems on the surface.…

Published on Leave a comment on People Who Are Deeply Self-Absorbed Usually Display These 10 Behaviors (without realizing)

Friend, have you had difficulties with a Family Member or Friend who causes you Considerable Stress and you’re not sure what you’re up against? I wish you well with your Endeavours.

by Lachlan Brown

Being self-absorbed is far different from having a healthy dose of self-esteem.

When someone is truly self-absorbed, they’re not just confident – they’re consumed by their own world, often oblivious to the feelings and needs of others.

These individuals often exhibit a series of behaviors that give them away, even if they don’t realize it themselves.

In this article, we’ll delve into those telltale signs. Get ready to discover the 10 behaviors commonly displayed by people who are deeply self-absorbed, without them even realizing it.

1) Constantly talking about themselves

We all love a good conversation, but with a self-absorbed individual, it’s usually a one-way street.

Ever found yourself stuck in a monologue rather than a dialogue? That’s your first clue.

Self-absorbed people have an uncanny knack for steering every conversation back to them – their experiences, their achievements, their problems.

It’s as if they’re the star of their own show, and everyone else merely exists as an audience.…

Published on Leave a comment on Assertive Comebacks To Use When Relating With An Immature Adult

Hi Folks, I've had a few Relatives and Friends like this and it's really hard slogging without some Really Good Tips like these.
 I wish I had them a long time ago!

by Ava Sinclair

Ever found yourself in a chat with someone who just doesn’t get grown-up talk? It’s a pain, right?

But, don’t sweat it. We’re here to help.

In this article, we’ll dish out 11 simple yet assertive responses for when someone’s being emotionally immature.

These comebacks? They’re all about keeping your cool and standing your ground, without turning into a meanie.

1) “Let’s focus on the issue”

You know those times when a chat turns into a blame game? It’s like you’re stuck in a whirlpool of pointing fingers. Well, here’s your first comeback to handle it.

Simply say, “Let’s focus on the issue, not on each other.”

This response is like a gentle nudge to steer the conversation back on track. It reminds them that the goal is to solve the problem, not to win an argument.

2) “I understand your point of view, but I see it differently”

Dealing with someone who insists their way is the only right way?…

Published on Leave a comment on The Secret Ingredient For Optimum Health? It’s Kindness, Says This Fitness Expert

HERE'S AN INOVATIVE APPROACH TO WEIGHTLOSS
THAT IS RECORDING GOOD RESULTS.

By Positive.News

You’d be forgiven if you thought the key to improving your health was a New Diet or more Willpower. Turns out it’s Kindness, says the founder of a unique program that launched in January.

Every Sunday, participants in Eddie Jones’ Health Program fill in a form to let him know how they got on during the week. But they’re not tracking workout duration, weight loss or calories. Instead, they’re totting up Acts of Kindness.

“It’s completely Anonymous, so I can’t tell who’s writing. I’ll never know,” Jones says. “I just dip into it every week or two. There have been some really, really wonderful things in there.”

He points to a participant who bought a supermarket voucher for someone who was struggling to feed their children. Another cared for a bee with an injured wing. Someone else simply wrote a kind note to an acquaintance and slipped it into a flower pot for them to find.

Jones is a qualified Personal Trainer and Nutritionist who has been helping people Transform their Health for almost a decade.…

Published on Leave a comment on 8 Situations In Life Where The Best Thing To Do Is Remain Silent, According To Psychology

Lachlan Brown - Writer and Psychologist

Navigating life is a bit like dancing—it’s all about knowing when to step forward and when to take a step back. Or in some cases, when to stay completely still.

And by ‘still’, I mean silent.

Hi there, I’m Lachlan Brown, a mindfulness enthusiast. I’m here to tell you that sometimes, silence is the most powerful statement you can make.

Psychology says there are certain situations where the wisest course of action is to simply hold your tongue and let silence speak volumes.

Let’s delve into these 8 situations where it’s best to remain silent. 

1) When emotions are running high

We’ve all been there. Tensions are rising, voices escalating, and the air is practically humming with emotion. It’s in these instances that psychology urges us to zip it.

Why, you ask? Well, because as per research, emotional arousal impairs our ability to process information and make balanced decisions.

You see, when we’re heated up, our brain goes into fight or flight mode. We’re more likely to say things we don’t mean or make decisions that we later regret. It’s a primal instinct that doesn’t serve us well in most modern-day scenarios.…

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Published on 3 Comments on Use These 10 Phrases to Disarm a Narcissist – These Should Help

By Sanjana Gupta from Very Well Mind

THIS IS A TRICKY ONE TO DEAL WITH, HOW TO MANAGE WITH THESE PEOPLE, AND THIS IS ONE OF THE MOST POSITIVE and HELPFUL ARTICLES I HAVE FOUND ABOUT THIS NEED, SO I THOUGHT I WOULD POST IT FOR YOU. IT’S ALSO IMPORTANT TO LET YOU KNOW THAT MOST TIMES, A PERSON WHO IS NARCISSISTIC HAS HAD A DIFFICULT UPBRINGING WITH PARENTS WHO WERE ABUSIVE or WHO DID NOT GIVE THEM MUCH ATTENTION; SELDOM SHOWED AFFECTION ETC AND THEY FELT UNIMPORTANT; NOT VALUED and UNLOVED. NARCISSISM IS A DISTORTED WAY THEY COPE WITH BAGGAGE THAT IS LEFT FROM THEIR UPBRINGING. AND IT’S KIND OF LIKE THEIR UNMET NEEDS and  ISSUES WITH THEIR PARENTS ARE DIRECTED TOWARDS YOU. IT'S KIND OF A PERMANENT REACTION TO BAD PARENTING.

RELATING WITH SUCH A PERSON CAN MEAN A VERY STRESSFUL LIFE OR RELATIONSHIP FOR YOU IF YOU DON’T LEARN APPROPRIATE WAYS OF HANDLING THAT. YOU MAY FIND THE STRATEGIES IN THIS ARTICLE BENEFICIAL TO YOUR CAUSE. I HOPE SO!

Interacting with a narcissist can leave you feeling confused, frustrated, angry, upset, and used.1 Whether it’s a friend, family member, colleague, or neighbour, dealing with them can be difficult and leave you drained.…

Published on Leave a comment on How to Stop Negative Thoughts – These Strategies Are Really Helpful

By Arlin Cuncic, MA from Very Well Mind

Negative thoughts can contribute to problems such as social anxiety, depression, stress, and low self-esteem. The key to changing your negative thoughts is to understand how you think now (and the problems that result), then use strategies to change these thoughts or make them have less of an effect.

"Our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors are all linked, so our thoughts impact how we feel and act. So, although we all have unhelpful thoughts from time to time, it’s important to know what to do when they appear so we don’t let them change the course of our day," explains Rachel Goldman, PhD, a psychologist and clinical assistant professor at the NYU School of Medicine.

Therapy can often be helpful for changing negative thoughts, but you can also learn how to change your thought patterns. This article discusses some of the steps you can take to change your negative thoughts. Some of the ways that you can get rid of negative thoughts include:

  1. Using mindfulness to build self-awareness
  2. Identifying negative thoughts
  3. Replacing negative thoughts with more realistic, positive ones
  4. Practicing acceptance rather than trying to avoid or deny negative thoughts
  5. Learning to cope with feedback and criticism
  6. Using a diary to track your thoughts

Combat Negative Thoughts With Mindfulness

Mindfulness has its roots in meditation.…

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Published on 2 Comments on How Clutter Affects Our Health and Is Best Avoided – Some Ways To Improve

THIS POST HAS A BALANCE OF HOW CLUTTER AFFECTS US and POSITIVE APPROACHES AGAINST NEGATIVE MINDSETS THAT CAN HINDER US FROM DECLUTTERING and MAKING PROGRESS WITH THIS STRATEGY.
BE SURE TO SEE THE TWO REALLY HELPFUL VIDEOS ON THIS PAGE. THEY WILL HELP YOU CONSIDERABLY.

How Clutter Can Affect Your Health

Barbara Brody from WebMD

Too Much Stuff

If your closets are bursting or your desk is topped with piles of disorganized papers, you may want to take some steps toward a neater home or workspace. While a bit of chaos might have some upsides -- at least one study suggests that a messy room spurs creativity -- it has many more downsides. It can even be damaging for your physical and mental health.

Mess Equals Stress

When everything is in order, you know exactly where you put your glasses and keys so you can grab them and go on with your day. That saves time and a whole lot of hassle. In one study, women who saw their homes as cluttered had high levels of the stress hormone cortisol throughout the day, while those who described their abode as a well-organized, restful space had lower levels.…