From Psychology Today Australia
Limits Can Lead to Adapting and More Cooperation,
Peace and Joy in Families. If you don't make sufficient Limits for Kids, they Press Your Limits:)
Through the years, Parents I've known who don't practice Limits with their Kids have little, to absolutely No Peace in their house. So the Helpful Information that's in this Article I found, should prove to be of immense Value to some of you Parents out there. Enjoy!
Almost always, the challenges parents are seeking to solve when they come to see me—meltdowns, inflexibility, defiance, or power struggles—are rooted in the absence of an important limit. That is what is causing so much stress for the entire family.
When the limit isn’t clear, and there is a lot of discussion or negotiation about something (more books at bedtime, more things the child says they need to do before they are willing to go to sleep, more treats, more screen time...), it opens up a big, black hole that the child fills with endless attempts to keep parents engaged or to get them to do what they want. This is not just exhausting and maddening for parents; it is exhausting for kids who expend a lot of mental energy making their case and pursuing all angles, getting themselves increasingly wound up and dysregulated.…

