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Category: Communicating and Relating

Many are a bit lost with Communicating and Relating with People – especially first time, making Friends or Acquaintances. So many of us have been brought up with Busy or Distracted Working Parents or even 2 or 3 generations of such in the Family and this leaves you clueless. We would all like to improve our Relationships I’m sure. This New Category is for both. Cheers!

Published on Leave a comment on 10 Clever Phrases To Put A Manipulator Back In Their Place

Many of us have had experiences with one of these people in recent years. There seems to be a lot more of them, so we should all be prepared how to recognise and handle them. Are to ready? Some of you who have had experiences will Sigh Relief and others will Laugh because some of these are Funny and they can be Effective. Shall we read what Lachlan Brown has to say? He is a good Writer with lots of Solutions on different Topics.

Navigating the world of manipulation is a tricky business. We’ve all come across those who seek to control us through their cunning words and hidden intentions.

But don’t fret, because we hold the power to put them in their place.

In my experience, having the right phrases at your disposal can help you stand your ground against a manipulator. These aren’t just words; they’re mini shields of self-protection.

Let’s get started.

1) “Let’s clarify your intentions”

In dealing with manipulators, clarity is your best ally.

Manipulators thrive on ambiguity and confusion. They weave their web of deceit by making things unclear or by leaving things unsaid.

Therefore, a powerful phrase to use against a manipulator is to ask for clarification of their intentions.…

Published on Leave a comment on People Who Are Deeply Self-Absorbed Usually Display These 10 Behaviors (without realizing)

Friend, have you had difficulties with a Family Member or Friend who causes you Considerable Stress and you’re not sure what you’re up against? I wish you well with your Endeavours.

by Lachlan Brown

Being self-absorbed is far different from having a healthy dose of self-esteem.

When someone is truly self-absorbed, they’re not just confident – they’re consumed by their own world, often oblivious to the feelings and needs of others.

These individuals often exhibit a series of behaviors that give them away, even if they don’t realize it themselves.

In this article, we’ll delve into those telltale signs. Get ready to discover the 10 behaviors commonly displayed by people who are deeply self-absorbed, without them even realizing it.

1) Constantly talking about themselves

We all love a good conversation, but with a self-absorbed individual, it’s usually a one-way street.

Ever found yourself stuck in a monologue rather than a dialogue? That’s your first clue.

Self-absorbed people have an uncanny knack for steering every conversation back to them – their experiences, their achievements, their problems.

It’s as if they’re the star of their own show, and everyone else merely exists as an audience.…

Published on Leave a comment on Assertive Comebacks To Use When Relating With An Immature Adult

Hi Folks, I've had a few Relatives and Friends like this and it's really hard slogging without some Really Good Tips like these.
 I wish I had them a long time ago!

by Ava Sinclair

Ever found yourself in a chat with someone who just doesn’t get grown-up talk? It’s a pain, right?

But, don’t sweat it. We’re here to help.

In this article, we’ll dish out 11 simple yet assertive responses for when someone’s being emotionally immature.

These comebacks? They’re all about keeping your cool and standing your ground, without turning into a meanie.

1) “Let’s focus on the issue”

You know those times when a chat turns into a blame game? It’s like you’re stuck in a whirlpool of pointing fingers. Well, here’s your first comeback to handle it.

Simply say, “Let’s focus on the issue, not on each other.”

This response is like a gentle nudge to steer the conversation back on track. It reminds them that the goal is to solve the problem, not to win an argument.

2) “I understand your point of view, but I see it differently”

Dealing with someone who insists their way is the only right way?…

Published on Leave a comment on The Secret Ingredient For Optimum Health? It’s Kindness, Says This Fitness Expert

HERE'S AN INOVATIVE APPROACH TO WEIGHTLOSS
THAT IS RECORDING GOOD RESULTS.

By Positive.News

You’d be forgiven if you thought the key to improving your health was a New Diet or more Willpower. Turns out it’s Kindness, says the founder of a unique program that launched in January.

Every Sunday, participants in Eddie Jones’ Health Program fill in a form to let him know how they got on during the week. But they’re not tracking workout duration, weight loss or calories. Instead, they’re totting up Acts of Kindness.

“It’s completely Anonymous, so I can’t tell who’s writing. I’ll never know,” Jones says. “I just dip into it every week or two. There have been some really, really wonderful things in there.”

He points to a participant who bought a supermarket voucher for someone who was struggling to feed their children. Another cared for a bee with an injured wing. Someone else simply wrote a kind note to an acquaintance and slipped it into a flower pot for them to find.

Jones is a qualified Personal Trainer and Nutritionist who has been helping people Transform their Health for almost a decade.…

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Published on 1 Comment on Part-Time Christians: What Is That? Can You Please Explain? Yes I Will.

By Janet Vargas - Owner of this Website

Part-Time Christians are mostly Churchy Christians who behave alright some of the time and not alright other times OR even most of the time. They are kind of alright when they're on the Church Scene, attending Services or Functions or playing a certain Role, be it Pastoral, Reception, Leading Women's Groups or Craft Groups Etc

If you are a Church Person and you think I may be getting the Church a “Bad Name”…… don’t worry because the Church already has one. I just like to make sure Jesus doesn’t take the Bad Wrap anymore and help people recognise the difference, passing on some Benefits instead of “Would you like to come to my Church?” and the person is thinking “Help No!” Honestly Folk, Walking with Jesus is Better than that – more Real, more Personal.

Yes like some of you, I have encountered those kind of people through the years, so I can relate with you. Let me tell you, that is Not what Following Jesus and
Walking with Jesus is about. Truly Believing in and Walking with Jesus is foremostly Relating with Him and Relating with Those Around Us.…

Published on Leave a comment on 8 Situations In Life Where The Best Thing To Do Is Remain Silent, According To Psychology

Lachlan Brown - Writer and Psychologist

Navigating life is a bit like dancing—it’s all about knowing when to step forward and when to take a step back. Or in some cases, when to stay completely still.

And by ‘still’, I mean silent.

Hi there, I’m Lachlan Brown, a mindfulness enthusiast. I’m here to tell you that sometimes, silence is the most powerful statement you can make.

Psychology says there are certain situations where the wisest course of action is to simply hold your tongue and let silence speak volumes.

Let’s delve into these 8 situations where it’s best to remain silent. 

1) When emotions are running high

We’ve all been there. Tensions are rising, voices escalating, and the air is practically humming with emotion. It’s in these instances that psychology urges us to zip it.

Why, you ask? Well, because as per research, emotional arousal impairs our ability to process information and make balanced decisions.

You see, when we’re heated up, our brain goes into fight or flight mode. We’re more likely to say things we don’t mean or make decisions that we later regret. It’s a primal instinct that doesn’t serve us well in most modern-day scenarios.…

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Published on 3 Comments on Use These 10 Phrases to Disarm a Narcissist – These Should Help

By Sanjana Gupta from Very Well Mind

THIS IS A TRICKY ONE TO DEAL WITH, HOW TO MANAGE WITH THESE PEOPLE, AND THIS IS ONE OF THE MOST POSITIVE and HELPFUL ARTICLES I HAVE FOUND ABOUT THIS NEED, SO I THOUGHT I WOULD POST IT FOR YOU. IT’S ALSO IMPORTANT TO LET YOU KNOW THAT MOST TIMES, A PERSON WHO IS NARCISSISTIC HAS HAD A DIFFICULT UPBRINGING WITH PARENTS WHO WERE ABUSIVE or WHO DID NOT GIVE THEM MUCH ATTENTION; SELDOM SHOWED AFFECTION ETC AND THEY FELT UNIMPORTANT; NOT VALUED and UNLOVED. NARCISSISM IS A DISTORTED WAY THEY COPE WITH BAGGAGE THAT IS LEFT FROM THEIR UPBRINGING. AND IT’S KIND OF LIKE THEIR UNMET NEEDS and  ISSUES WITH THEIR PARENTS ARE DIRECTED TOWARDS YOU. IT'S KIND OF A PERMANENT REACTION TO BAD PARENTING.

RELATING WITH SUCH A PERSON CAN MEAN A VERY STRESSFUL LIFE OR RELATIONSHIP FOR YOU IF YOU DON’T LEARN APPROPRIATE WAYS OF HANDLING THAT. YOU MAY FIND THE STRATEGIES IN THIS ARTICLE BENEFICIAL TO YOUR CAUSE. I HOPE SO!

Interacting with a narcissist can leave you feeling confused, frustrated, angry, upset, and used.1 Whether it’s a friend, family member, colleague, or neighbour, dealing with them can be difficult and leave you drained.…

Published on Leave a comment on Their Bodies Age, But Seniors Have Higher Emotional Well-Being – Here’s Why

By Knowable Magazine

Bodies lose their vigor with the passing of the years, but in the emotional realm, older people seem to rule supreme.

For the past 20 years, Susan Turk Charles, a psychologist at the University of California, Irvine, has been monitoring the shifting moods, the sense of satisfaction, and the outbursts of anger and sadness in people of all ages—with a special interest in how we handle and experience emotions as we grow older.

Emotionally Adjusted In Later Years - Happier

She fell in love with the idea of studying a process related to aging that is not defined by a decline. Unlike physical fitness or cognition, where you may see slowing or declines, emotional regulation and experience are often as good, if not better, as we age.

What is the secret behind this grizzled levelheadedness? How can we make sure that as many people as possible can benefit from it? And what can it teach the young? In 2010, Charles and Stanford psychologist Laura Carstensen coauthored an article on social and emotional aging in the Annual Review of Psychology. They have found that, on average, older people have more satisfying social contacts and report higher emotional well-being.…

Published on Leave a comment on Thomas Created A Social Group For People With Autism. Community Circles Spread The Word!

ABC Illawarra / By Brooke Chandler Jun 2023

After struggling to make friends, Thomas Walters Whyte made the life-changing decision to create a social group for people with autism spectrum disorder (ASD).

Driven by the desire to meet people who understood him, the 22-year-old has created a little community in Bowral in the NSW Southern Highlands.

Thomas Walters Creates A Group For Young People With Autism

"I felt alone," Thomas said.

"I was trying to connect with the members of my local horse riding club but because I was the only ASD person, I struggled. I couldn't relate to what they are saying."

With encouragement from his mother Jessica Whyte, Thomas posted the idea about a social group tailored specifically for young adults with mild ASD to Facebook.

The concept reached a greater audience when Rose Shaw from Community Circles offered her networking skills.

"There are large organisations trying to help people like me, but I just fell into the gaps," Thomas said.

"But in this small gathering, we can all enjoy a meal, chat, and soak up the not-so-busy atmosphere."

Now, every weekend Thomas sips an icy drink from a cafe accompanied by half a dozen young adults of neurodivergent backgrounds.…

Published on Leave a comment on Ruminating: How Do I Stop That? Here’s Some Good Solutions For You!

HOW DO I STOP THINKING OF THINGS OVER AND OVER - LIKE A GEAR STICK THAT REFUSES TO SHIFT? SEE IF THESE HELP YOU. MANY PEOPLE RUMINATE - IT MAY HELP YOU TO KNOW THAT.

Tips to Help You Stop Ruminating
By Erica Cirino from Healthline.Com

What is rumination?

Has your mind ever been filled with one single thought, or a string of thoughts, that just keep repeating… and repeating… and repeating themselves?

The process of continuously thinking about the same thoughts, which tend to be sad or dark, is called rumination.

A habit of rumination can be dangerous to your mental health, as it can extend or intensify depression as well as impair your ability to think and process emotions. It may also cause you to feel isolated and can, in reality, push people away.

What causes ruminating?

People ruminate for a variety of reasons. According to the American Psychological Association opens in a new window, some common reasons for rumination include:

belief that by ruminating, you’ll gain insight into your life or a problem
having a history of emotional or physical trauma
facing ongoing stressors that can’t be controlled
Ruminating is also common in people who possess certain personality characteristics, which include perfectionism, neuroticism, and an excessive focus on one’s relationships with others.…