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Category: Communicating and Relating

Many are a bit lost with Communicating and Relating with People – especially first time, making Friends or Acquaintances. So many of us have been brought up with Busy or Distracted Working Parents or even 2 or 3 generations of such in the Family and this leaves you clueless. We would all like to improve our Relationships I’m sure. This New Category is for both. Cheers!

Published on Leave a comment on When Friendships Are Stressful: Some Things We Can Do That May Help You

By Janet Vargas - Owner Of This Website

Things You Can Do With Difficult Friendships

These are stressful days we are living in – there’s no doubt about that – and many people are becoming “Needs-Orientated” because they don’t have managing skills. These are Life Skills we all need to develop and some mistakenly expect others to have these Life Skills for them. Or worse still, they want to constantly Off-Load their problems on others as their way of coping or complaining about life and that is SIMPLY UNFAIR.

You have come to the right place if you have problematic friendships. I’ve had a few and I found what to do. Of necessity, it was a real awakening in recent years.

Because I was far too Caring, I did not “practice the Principles I needed to” for my sanity (so to speak) and Peace of Mind. Looking back now, that so sapped up my energies, I’ve not been able to do some things I had planned to do because my energies were somewhat drained. They called themselves Friends but they needed a good spanking – they did not take responsibility for mistakes they were making and leaned much of their weight on me!…

Published on Leave a comment on Healing From Neglect As A Child: Find Keys – This Will Make A Difference!

By Janet Vargas - Owner Of This Website

Was there some way you felt unnoticed in your upbringing? Some of us experienced that with Teachers, an Aunty and Uncle, a big Brother or Sister but others have had rough beginnings with their Parents - believe it or not - who took very little notice of them and did not show much affection. This is something I've felt very passionate about since the 80's.

If you were neglected in some way as a child - unnoticed or lacking affection - I really feel for you because I experienced a sudden change at a young age of a different but similar nature, that left me decidedly empty and unfulfilled. Parents, please give each child your best in life. You may not have much else to give them materially speaking but please give them the "Best of You!" Lots of hugs, some undivided interest each day and some laughter in the Home are the Best Gifts and Start in Life you can give them - other things are not so important.

You need to apologise to your kids and change your ways if you don't.…

Published on Leave a comment on An Overlooked Way To Good Health. New Discoveries Made By Psychologists Concerning A 2,000 Year Christian Principle.

Forgiveness: Jesus encouraged this in His Counsel To Us And In The Life He Lived Among Us 33 Years. It Is Probably Taken To Be A Religious Exercise By Most People Who Have Not Experienced It. However, The Grace And Freedom Found In Forgiveness Is Not Limited To Christians. In Fact, I Have Known A Few To Be Unforgiving, Who Do Not Reflect Jesus’ Manner. Psychologists Are Excited With The Newfound  Discovery That Forgiveness Benefits Our Health – Mentally, Emotionally And Even Physically. They Are Recording Good Results, Sometimes Surprising.

These Days, Neuroscientists Tell Us That Unhealthy Attitudes – With Emotions That Accompany Them – Can Make You Sick, Mentally Or Physically. So The Positive Is That Letting Go Of Unforgiveness Can Bring Healing And Sometimes Peace, Letting Go Of Anger Can Restore Your Joy Or Even Relieve Depression, Letting Go Of Resentment Has Been Known To Ease Symptoms Of Arthritis Etc. Why Not Read These Two Articles I Found On The Net Recently? This Principle If Practiced Could Be A Good Asset To Your Health, Your Family And Friendships.

Why Should You Forgive Someone? Though Not A Favourite Topic To Some Of Us,  In The Positive Sense, You May Find Some Real Clues For Better Health Reading This Post.…

Published on Leave a comment on Finding Validation: Who From? We Can Practice These Things And Feel Better Gradually.

Acceptance, everyone needs it. We are all wired for love, acceptance and approval. We all have those rights, some of us are conscious of those needs being met, others are not – it depends on our upbringing, how our emotions were formed, if our basic needs for affection and attention were met. However, there are things we can do.

Learning to develop a loving disposition towards ourselves in life is important these days rather than seeking validation from those who may not give it or fail to give it. Not everyone is inclined to give validation to others, some don’t think to express that. Often their thoughts are somewhere else (for whatever reason, it is not necessarily intentional) they may be thinking of what they have to say and fail to be attune to who they are conversing with half the time, and believe it or not, they may be concerned with finding their own validation sometimes.

Many people have a Co-Dependent relationship where they seek validation constantly from each-other, not often finding it – that can be a constant source of frustration.

For those who have not heard of this term before, validation is basically approval from others.…

Published on Leave a comment on 30 Ways to Be a Nicer Person – See If You Find Some Right For You!

By David and Daniela Naidu

THESE ARE GOOD QUALITIES TO QUIZ OURSELVES ON AND PRACTICE. ALSO TO BRING OUR KIDS UP WITH. WE ARE LIVING IN A 2ND AND 3RD GENERATION OF BUSY WORKING PARENTS - MANY OF US HAVE MISSED OUT ON HAVING PARENTS WHO EXPRESSED THEMSELVES LIKE THIS WITH US. AND MAYBE WE HAVE NOT THOUGHT OF INSTILLING THESE PRINCIPLES INTO OUR KIDS. AS THE ADAGE SAYS "BETTER LATE THAN NEVER'' FOR US ALL TO EXPERIENCE THESE PRECIOUS TRAITS. THEY ARE GOOD WAYS TO EXPERIENCE GOOD QUALITY FRIENDSHIPS TOO.

It's Cool To Be Kind - Refresh Someone's Spirit Today - Surprise Yourself, Hey?

I JUST LOVE THIS ARTICLE AND WOULD LIKE TO ENCOURAGE YOU TO READ IT
AND SELECT A FEW THINGS TO TRY, HEY?

Almost everyone in this world likes to be in the company of a nice person. Nice people are a joy to be around, they inspire others and make the people they are with feel good about themselves. People who are nice have good friends.

Be Punctual
Being punctual for an appointment is one important way to be a nicer person. It demonstrates to the other person that you have respect for his or her time.…

Published on Leave a comment on Why Some People Tear Others Down – Need A Few Clues? And What To Do.

I knew someone who has experienced this with someone at her church for some time believe it or not. There are a few gossips and busybodies there too. It is evident to me that none of these offenders have a real relationship with Jesus – to be acquainted with Him is reflected in love for others and appropriate conduct. If someone has unseemly behavior, something is wrong – sometimes you have to ask yourself if they really know Jesus? Maybe not!

The Following Advice "in quotation marks" is from James George (The rest is from me) He is a caring person with some good insights.

"No matter what we do in life, there can be someone at some stage who has something negative to say but some people like to tear others down, not just you – please remember this. Sometimes they find every fault that you have and exploit it to make you feel bad about yourself. They want to demolish someone’s confidence. It’s frustrating to hurt your feelings and it makes you feel like you’re insignificant. So why does this happen? Why do people feel like they have to tear others down and make them feel bad?"…

Published on Leave a comment on Some Undivided Attention Is Nourishing To Loved Ones And Children Especially

By Janet Vargas: Founder of this Website
and Kate Kelly: Children's Writer

We Get So Busy And Time Flies So Quickly, Lets Look Closely At This: Good Meals Are Nourishing, Good Sleep Is Nourishing, Breathing In Nice Fresh Air Is Nourishing - Especially When Our Lungs Expand With Deep Breaths Because Most Of Us Are Shallow Breathers. And So It Is With Affection When Expressed In Practical Ways - It's Lovely, It's Wholesome, And Showing Each-Other Some Undivided Attention Is SO GOOD! That's Why I Call It Nourishing.

Giving Some Undivided Attention To Our Loved Ones Makes Them Feel Valued And Appreciated

I found this following article some months ago and remembered it just now. It's written for children and there is still a Heart-Child in everyone of us, so I hope this helps all of us. Especially children because they count on us! Shall We Go?

I always remembered this article from time to time after reading it - so meaningful - and having found it again, do think it's timely to have this in my Blog. I'm sure some of you will think so too, once you read it.…

Published on Leave a comment on How we See Ourselves is So Important – It Can Give You A Better Outlook On Life

By Janet Vargas Owner of this Website

I will share with you a Life Principle.
The way we look at ourselves is important and has a lot to do with how we experience life. Yes, the way we look inward has to do with our outlook on life.
We all have self-talk, an inner chatter. A dialogue as it were.

Take A Breather - Be Kind To Yourself Each Day

Make sure your dialogue is kind and give it some guidelines on a daily basis until it becomes your friend - bringing to mind positive thoughts, cheerful thoughts and loving thoughts. Yes, feed yourselves this type of thinking until it becomes natural.

Because our inner chatter is somewhat negative for most and unruly for some, with content that is disturbing and sometimes troublesome if not kept in check. Yes, you can monitor this self talk and tell it what to say, so to speak. You can decide the things you would like to hear. 

Our God given Power of Choice is a wonderful thing. We can choose what we want in life_ company, past-time and interests, food and cuisine, TV programs and websites etc and we can determine what type of thoughts we like to think, so we can see ourselves and life around us differently. …

Published on Leave a comment on Happy Healthy Homes

By Janet Vargas Owner of this Website

We all need to strengthen Family Bonds and relationships in a day and age that has it's challenges - essentially we are as strong as our Families and Friendships are and spiritually too. Speaking for myself, relating closely with our Creator and Jesus our Saviour, wins over religious duties and "church attendance"........

Family Bonding Together Is Really Good - Do This Often

I may share a little about that in other posts but do not wish to impose agendas on you. I have found many visitors to my Poem Website HERE like to view pages like those which are totally separate (they have many views and people have commented to me afterwards offline, saying they enjoy them). One person without any religious background said they "see things so much clearer"......

I have been asked if I will write more and I did not set out to do that.

HOME SCENE - SOME INSIGHTS

In this world we live in, so much is out to separate family members, since about 30+ years ago and to depersonalise relationships, with so much 'Tech This and Tech That' everything Tech.......Social…