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Category: Communicating and Relating

Many are a bit lost with Communicating and Relating with People – especially first time, making Friends or Acquaintances. So many of us have been brought up with Busy or Distracted Working Parents or even 2 or 3 generations of such in the Family and this leaves you clueless. We would all like to improve our Relationships I’m sure. This New Category is for both. Cheers!

Published on Leave a comment on Social Media: How Much Do They Affect Your Decisions? Some Insights.

Many agree these days, that Social Media can have a pretty strong influence on your thoughts and even shape your mindsets. Some feeds can be helpful while many can be impoverishing or destructive to one's mental and physical health, depending on who you're following of-course - who is in your circle of influence.

Quite a number of people of different ages are leaving Social Media in recent times and opting for other interests like spending more time with family; starting hobbies; going out more; spending their time purposefully; after something more satisfying; improving relationships which have been stifled by Social Media. These people report that they are happier for making these decisions to "break away" from something that was "getting out of hand"...........some say it was "crippling" and they needed to find themselves again.

I can image one could feel pulled this way and that way; congested with too many feeds; stressed by too much activity in their feeds, calling out for their attention a lot, while others feel disappointed by not having enough interest shown in their feeds, and feeling poorly for that.

One time, I read someone's article that said things like, a lot of members make false representations of themselves - kind of like they've had the perfect week, so to speak, week after week - and a lot of young people feel like they don't measure up with that.…

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Published on 1 Comment on 50+ Ways to Cheer Someone Up – See If Some Of These Appeal

IN THE LAST FEW YEARS, SOME OF US HAVE LEARNT SOME GOOD COPING SKILLS, AND OTHERS ARE REALLY COPING NOT SO WELL. MOST TIMES, YOU CAN'T CHANGE CIRCUMSTANCES FOR THEM, BUT YOU CAN MAYBE MAKE THINGS A LITTLE LIGHTER BY BREAKING UP SOME POSSIBLE RUMINATION AND GIVING THEM SOME TANGIBLE IDEAS TO DISPERSE SOME CLOUDY THOUGHTS. SOMETIMES, JUST A SIMPLE INTERVENTION OF HAVING YOUR COMPANY FOR A WHILE AND DOING SOMETHING DIFFERENT CAN BREAK UP A SOMBER STATE OF MIND THAT IS MAKING THEM FEEL SAD, LONELY OR VULNERABLE. IT'S SHOWING THEM SOMEONE CARES, HEY? AND THAT CAN MEAN A LOT.

Fill Someone's Day With Sunshine - There's So Many Ways!!!

From Different Authors

By Rachel Sharpe

Write Them A Card

If your goal is to cheer someone up, send snail mail and mail them a card. Let the card be a surprise. Within the card, write down all the reasons why you think that person is incredible. It’s a great way to make the person feel special and appreciated. It’ll likely be kept as a memento for years to come. If the person who needs cheering up typically doesn’t get mail, this will be a pleasant surprise for them.…

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THIS ARTICLE COVERS TWO TOPICS, ADDRESSING THINGS WE CAN DO WITH LONELINESS, AND RELATING WITH PEOPLE.

Search Out Ways To Do Things With People.

Find ways to be around people more. Activities that involve other people — such as an Arts or Crafts Group, Walking Group, Exercise Class, engaging in Sports etc are also likely to have positive effects on our emotional and mental health. People like to share interests in common and this could prove to be a good outlet for you.
It helped me out of a state of boredom years ago when I went to see what a Craft Group had to offer. Previously, I was never a crafts person, so this was new to me.
I actually developed a passionate interest and I enjoyed the company of women there for quite some time before returning to part-time Independent Natural Health Research. Their conversation was light and this can be a welcome change from friends continuously problem sharing, for some of us.

Talk To Strangers When You Go Out.

Research suggests that even small interactions with strangers — like chatting with a barista or cashier — may be able to keep loneliness at bay by helping us feel more socially connected.…

Published on Leave a comment on The Art of Self-Kindness and How it Helps Us Cope with Stress

By Juandri Buitendag and Prof Margareta James - Psychologists

Self-kindness can boost our mental health and help us navigate stressful situations. This is what we can do to nurture more of it.

Importance Of Practicing Some Self-Kindness - An Absolute Must!

Observing the breeze blow gently through the trees, savoring the delicate taste of a morning cuppa and curling up with a diverting novel in hand: far from being an extravagance, as these acts of self-kindness have sometimes been treated, they are in fact the fundamental building blocks of strong mental health.

In a world that is increasingly time-pressured and an economic model that has an unyielding focus on improving efficiency, it is easier than ever to overlook or de-prioritise your personal feelings and needs.

But according to psychologists, the art of self-kindness, although something that can be honed, is not something that should be optional. Whether it be in the realms of the physical, emotional, spiritual, or indeed professional, being conscious and sensitive towards yourself, they say, is key preparation for everything that life throws at us.

“It can change your life massively,” says Juandri Buitendag, a counseling psychologist who founded JB Wellness Dynamics, a London-based psychology therapy practice.…

Published on Leave a comment on Uninvolved Or Neglectful Parenting: Examples and Effects

A REAL CONCERN - PLEASE READ

By Mona Bapat, PhD, HSPP Licensed Clinical Psychologist

Uninvolved parenting, or neglectful parenting, occurs when parents demonstrate low levels of nurturing, warmth and love toward their child, and little involvement in their life. If you're concerned that you might be a neglectful parent, it can be useful to know the characteristics of the uninvolved parenting style, and how being uninvolved impacts your child. You can also learn how to become more present and engaged in your child's development and activities to help promote their well-being.

Characteristics of Uninvolved Parenting

Neglectful parents tend to be "hands off" in various parts of their child's life and development. This leads to a heavy imbalance between tending to themselves versus their child. Parents who are uninvolved most of the time tend to:

  • Ignore their child
  • Prioritize their needs over those of their child
  • Be consumed with their work
  • Be consumed with their own interests

Reasons Why Parents Might Be Uninvolved

It's easy to wonder why parents can be so neglectful and removed when it comes to their child. At the same time, there is often more than meets the eye when it comes to things parents might be struggling with that can lead to this type of parenting.…

Published on Leave a comment on Some Positive Traits To Have – Be Sure To Read This!

By Brad Aronson

I Found These In An Article Called 'How to be Happy: Scientifically Proven Ways to Be Happier'......This Will Also Help You With Parenting, Providing A Healthy Environment For Your Kids. These Positive Traits We Can Develop Make Us More Cheerful And Raise Stronger Kids.

Wow - I Can Learn These Positive Traits
(A Step At A Time)

See the positive

Researchers have found that we’re happier when we see the positive. This doesn’t mean we live in a dream world where we don’t see problems. It means we notice the positive. The good news is that we can train our brains. over time, to more often see the positive.

Here are some ways we can be Positive

Perform at least one act of kindness daily.
As you start performing acts of kindness, you’ll notice more and more opportunities to be kind. A study from Michael StegerOpens in a new window showed that kind acts increase happiness, and performing kind acts starts shifting our mindset to a more positive outlook.

As far as acts of kindness go, think small. A “thank you note” in your spouse’s lunch, an email to one of your kid’s amazing teachers, etc.…

Published on Leave a comment on Promises We Make And The Importance Of Keeping Them – Many Offend

By Janet Vargas - Owner Of This Website

I think all of us has a child inside of us that feels good when promises are kept. This is a message for Today isn’t it?......where so many promises are not kept with the busy rush and pace of life_ it's activity and responsibilities? For me, I said to Jesus with some very genuine people who had good intentions I'm sure.... "regardless of those, they too have let me down."

Its Nice To Remember Our Promises - Lets Keep Them!

Sometimes people can damage our trust with broken promises through sheer carelessness (rash promises) or neglect. There is a Bible verse which says to “Let your Yes be Yes and your No be No”.  I say to Christians in a different website I run “Let us be keepers of His Word – that is to keep our words.” Otherwise, it is best not to make promises, even if the person may feel good for the moment – they may be twice as upset later.....hey? It's true. I have had a few repeats of this recently. Just because I write Inspirations does not mean to say I'm exempt from disappointments, and I am a happy peaceful person these days.…

Published on Leave a comment on Learning to Trust Yourself Again After Betrayal – Take Care

By Habiba Jessica Zaman, NCC, LPC

Everyone talks about having a hard time trusting another person after a betrayal and so few discuss how difficult it is to trust ourselves as a result.

We focus on what the other person did to us and try to find ways to set up barricades to make sure this never happens to us again by someone else. We remind ourselves of the pain it has caused, the powerlessness, and the wrongness of what was done to us.

All of that is correct. We are hurt, we did feel powerless to stop it, we didn’t think they would do this to us, and it is wrong.

We then come up with creative ways to safeguard our bleeding heart. Defense mechanisms to find that power again that was taken from us through the betrayal.

Some turn to shutting out the heart, convincing oneself that we do not need another to rely on or find solace in, running from another when they get a bit too close, or perhaps putting up obstacles and bringing up unnecessary conflicts when we find that we are starting to open up and allowing vulnerability to present in the form of emotional intimacy.…

Published on Leave a comment on Janets Simple Philosophies – See If Some Of These Are Right For You

By Janet Vargas - Owner Of This Website

Sometimes the inspirations I write are referred to as philosophies by people who appreciate them as a way of life, so this page is named accordingly.

Hope you Enjoy!

## Be kind to the living....now is the time to be giving.

## Try to be kind to people and treat them with respect. It means so much to someone whose thoughts you do not know.

## When you aspire to something, be willing to work at or plan for it. Be patient in the process and kind with yourself. Don't try to skip the process, that usually ends in frustration.

## To accomplish things, take a step at a time. It's better to take sure steps than quantum leaps. This will work better for you.

## Surround yourself with some people who will lift you higher. And aim at lifting others higher - even if it's simply cheering them up.

## Live to add cheer to someone's day and God will take care of you. To live for others, not just ourselves is something we must do.

## Surround yourself with those who inspire or bring out the best in you rather than deplete you or stifle you.…

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Published on 2 Comments on When Family Members And Friends Offend By Imposing Their Problems On You Repeatedly…

By Janet Vargas - Owner Of This Website

Especially the same problem "over and over" some people are heavy weights at that and there seems no way of escaping them. Ever felt weighed down like that "time after time" in addition to whatever your concerns may be?

Hi Friends, I’ve experienced a lot of this kind of thing for some years and may be able to help you.

When they keep making poor decisions and are disgruntled with life, we should not have to bear punishment for that when they don’t like the consequences. We really should not, that’s very unfair. If it is a family member at fault for that kind of behaviour, I believe that’s a form of abuse. If it is a friend at fault, that is a form of abuse also that does not know boundaries and they will have to learn better – if they don’t respect your boundaries.

They are boundary violators and should be dealt with accordingly. If they don’t learn their lesson, opt for better friends because that is no friendship – they violate the very principles Friendship is founded on. Friendship must be built on good principles, there aren’t a lot of them but they must be respected to Enjoy any Friendship.…