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Category: Simple Psychology/Lifeskills

Nothing too serious. This is what I call Simple Psychology. There are some Interesting things I find plus some Life Skill discoveries I make from time to time when Researching. They can be Life-Changing.

Published on Leave a comment on The Benefits Of Movement For Different Moods – Try These

THIS IS A REALLY GOOD FIND. I HAVE HERE, 6 SIMPLE THINGS WE CAN DO TO IMPROVE OUR MOOD LEVELS FROM DIFFERENT STATES WE FIND OURELVES IN. SOME FITNESS INSTRUCTORS'S ADVICE AND EQUIPMENT ARE ACTUALLY BAD FOR US, ACCORDING TO DR JESSE LYNN HANLEY WHO WORKS ALONGSIDE OF VARIOUS SPECIALISTS, AND OTHER PROFESSIONALS LIKE PYSIOTHERAPISTS, CHIROPRACTORS AND OSTEOPATHS HAVE REPORTED. YOU WON'T NEED A GYM OR MEMBERHIP FOR THESE EXCELLENT SOLUTIONS/NIFTY IDEAS. ENJOY!

Workouts to Improve Your Mood

By Jessica Smith 2018

By nature, humans are moody creatures. And as much as we'd love to feel good and be happy all the time, it's not always possible. Sometimes we're distracted, sad, exhausted, anxious or stressed out. But luckily, there's a solution when you get a case of the feels: We consulted fitness experts to find workouts that are best suited for whatever mood you might be in and how they can help you get out of it!

Anxious? Try Walking

Filled with nervous or anxious energy? Take a walk! “If you have a lot of nervous energy, a great way to deal with it is by, quite literally, walking it off,” says Walters.…

Published on Leave a comment on Practice This Mini Form Of Therapeutic Meditation – It Will Help You With Stress

By Brad Aronson

WE NEED TO DE-STRESS FOLKS, WE CAN'T KEEP ACCUMULATING STRESS UNCHECKED EVERY DAY; WEEK BY WEEK; OR EVENT TO EVENT WITHOUT SOME RELIEF STRATEGIES TO WEAKEN THE IMPACT SOMEWHAT. WE ARE NOT MADE OF CAST IRON (So To Speak) TO KEEP ADDING INSULT TO INJURY WHEN WE HAVE BEEN SO STRESSED, Our Mind And Body CAN TAKE SO MUCH BEFORE THEY PLAY UP IN SOME WAY. RELENTLESS STRESS Affects Both Mind And Body SO PLEASE FIND A FEW WAYS OF STOPPING STRESS FROM COMPOUNDING. This Is One Of Them. BE KIND TO YOURSELF AND GIVE IT A TRY. SEE HOW YOU GO. YOU MAY EVEN SAY Why Did I Not Know About This Sooner? YES YOU MAY:)

On this website, I have placed my Simple form of Meditation, just for pleasant thoughts and relaxation. Two days ago, I came across this Mini Therapeutic form by Brad that is much less complex than most therapeutic meditations.

I thought if I include this on Ours Australia, it could benefit a lot of people. Who does not need to cut down on stress these days? So I thought it most appropriate.…

Published on Leave a comment on Working Towards A Happy Temperament Is A Better Way To Be Happy More Often

HAPPINESS NEEDS WORKING AT RATHER THAN EXPECTING IT TO JUST COME TO YOU - THAT SELDOM COMES TO MOST, OR WISHING TO BE HAPPY ALL THE TIME, DOES IT? AND THAT'S WHY SO MANY PEOPLE ARE FRUSTRATED WITH IT OR DISDAINED. IF WE CAN REPLACE UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS WITH A DIFFERENT OUTLOOK ON HAPPINESS,
A PRACTICAL ONE, THIS CAN WORK FOR MOST OF US.

Collect Happy Thoughts And Moments Instead Of Disappointments

HAPPINESS IS WITHIN OUR REACH WITH THE RIGHT EXPECTATIONS. TRY NOT TO OVERTHINK THINGS - Including Happiness - AND IT WILL BE YOURS MORE OFTEN. HAPPINESS HAS A WAY OF EVADING US WHEN WE CHASE IT AWAY. RECOGNISE THE LITTLE THINGS THAT CAN MAKE US HAPPY MORE OFTEN. YES INDEED, LETS DO THAT.

We Are Happier If We:

You don’t sweat the small stuff...
Just miss the train? Spill your coffee? It doesn’t matter. If focusing on what’s important and not obsessing over minor annoyances is a priority of yours, it may be a sign that you’re in a good place. Research has shown that those who swap focusing on the small, everyday negatives for emphasis on brief, joyful moments tend to be happier overall.…

Published on Leave a comment on Tips On Balancing Real Life And Technology – We All Need This Aye? Especially Kids!

Take Care with PC and IPad Use

Sometimes Tech-Life can impose Artificial Values in Life when it comes to Lifestyle. Don't find yourself missing out on LIFE.....Hey? TV is noted for that. The Net involves your participation, so the addiction can be even more powerful to the point of crippling.

This Link will take you to a Website whose motto is to

"WATCH LESS - LIVE MORE'

The use of IPads can be very addictive....sometimes even more than a Computer or Laptop. Misuse or Overuse of one of the above mentioned can end up stressing you or your family out when you find yourself addicted:

You can't stay away from it - you find yourself unable to moderate the use of it.

They interest you more than other things.

You find yourself restless when they are not in use.

You begin to lose interest in other activities.

Previous interests become boring or you loose motivation.

Your way of thinking starts to change because you are used to Tech-Mode.

You often spend much more time online than intended.

You make yourself promises only to break them.

You find it difficult to engage in other things - but you must.…

Published on Leave a comment on Janets Simple Philosophies – See If Some Of These Are Right For You

By Janet Vargas - Owner Of This Website

Sometimes the inspirations I write are referred to as philosophies by people who appreciate them as a way of life, so this page is named accordingly.

Hope you Enjoy!

## Be kind to the living....now is the time to be giving.

## Try to be kind to people and treat them with respect. It means so much to someone whose thoughts you do not know.

## When you aspire to something, be willing to work at or plan for it. Be patient in the process and kind with yourself. Don't try to skip the process, that usually ends in frustration.

## To accomplish things, take a step at a time. It's better to take sure steps than quantum leaps. This will work better for you.

## Surround yourself with some people who will lift you higher. And aim at lifting others higher - even if it's simply cheering them up.

## Live to add cheer to someone's day and God will take care of you. To live for others, not just ourselves is something we must do.

## Surround yourself with those who inspire or bring out the best in you rather than deplete you or stifle you.…

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Published on 2 Comments on When Family Members And Friends Offend By Imposing Their Problems On You Repeatedly…

By Janet Vargas - Owner Of This Website

Especially the same problem "over and over" some people are heavy weights at that and there seems no way of escaping them. Ever felt weighed down like that "time after time" in addition to whatever your concerns may be?

Hi Friends, I’ve experienced a lot of this kind of thing for some years and may be able to help you.

When they keep making poor decisions and are disgruntled with life, we should not have to bear punishment for that when they don’t like the consequences. We really should not, that’s very unfair. If it is a family member at fault for that kind of behaviour, I believe that’s a form of abuse. If it is a friend at fault, that is a form of abuse also that does not know boundaries and they will have to learn better – if they don’t respect your boundaries.

They are boundary violators and should be dealt with accordingly. If they don’t learn their lesson, opt for better friends because that is no friendship – they violate the very principles Friendship is founded on. Friendship must be built on good principles, there aren’t a lot of them but they must be respected to Enjoy any Friendship.…

Published on Leave a comment on How to Know When And How to Say NO

By Dr. Caroline Leaf And Dr. Henry Cloud
Neuroscientist And Psychologist

It's Alright To Say "NO..."
You Don't Have To Do Everything.

We all know that community is important for mental health, but what happens when people demand too much from us? How do we know when and how to say no before we feel drained and burnout? 

As I discuss in this week’s podcast with Dr. Henry Cloud, acclaimed leadership expert, bestselling author and psychologist, boundaries are as important as community when it comes to our mental health. It is not selfish to say no or give ourselves a break. 

We all need space, or what Dr. Cloud calls “property lines”, in our relationships. These lines set healthy limits in a friendship, and make sure people don’t throw their “trash” into your yard (figuratively speaking) or try control what you do and how you live. These are not walls: they are permeable. Ideally, we open our boundaries to let in good relationships, but we close them to keep out to threats and danger.

But, you may ask, what can you do when you feel obligated to say “yes” all the time and let people in all the time?…

Published on Leave a comment on The Value And Advantages In Having A Hobby/Hobbies

IT'S NICE TO HAVE A HOBBY: SOMETHING YOU'RE INTERESTED IN, SOMETHING LIGHT-HEARTED. EVERYONE "BUSY BUSY" SEEMS TO BE THE WAY OF MODERN CIVILISATION SINCE THE TURN OF THIS CENTUARY, HEY? BUT IS THAT HEALTHY FOR US OR OUR KIDS? NOT REALLY. NO. SOMEONE SAID TO ME A FEW YEARS AGO "SOME PEOPLE DON'T KNOW WHAT THEY LOVE, TO DO IT?" IT'S SO TRUE THAT SOME DON'T KNOW THEIR PASSION, TO PURSUE IT. THERE ARE BENEFITS WHEN YOU DISCOVER WHAT IT IS, LIKE MANY HAVE EXPERIENCED FOR MONTHS OR YEARS. WE HAVE A FRIEND WHO HAS JUST DISCOVERED HIS AND IT'S REALLY GREAT TO SEE. LIFE SHOULD NOT ALL BE WORK, CHORES AND TV OR SOCIAL MEDIA. TRY AND THINK YOUR WAY AROUND THAT. FEEL FREE TO LOOK FOR IDEAS AND EXPLORE. BE KIND TO YOURSELF, HEY?

6 Reasons To Get A Hobby

By Jaime Kurtz, Ph.D., PsychologyToday.Com

You're Really Not Too Busy.

Over a couple of generations, we have somehow misplaced their free time.

Various things contribute to this, but for many of us, being legitimately busy simply isn't one of them. Instead, we habitually waste time, creating the illusion of busyness.…

Published on Leave a comment on 4 Ways Our Relationships Change Who We Are – Good And Not So Good

Gwendolyn Seidman Ph.D. PsychologyToday.Com

For good or bad, our partners influence us, and how we see ourselves.

When we are involved in serious romantic relationships, we find ourselves turning from a “me” to an “us”.1 This isn’t just a matter of semantics: The very nature of the self evolves through the relationship. We start to see our own self-concept as overlapping with that of our partner.2 That means that as we become increasingly committed, we find our self-concept actually changing—the “us” becomes “me.”3 But how does our self-concept change, and are these changes good or bad for us and our relationships?

According to Mattingly, Lewandowski, and McIntyre, our relationships can change our self-concepts in two ways:4

  • First, the size of your self-concept can change. It can expand, to include new traits or to make existing traits more prominent. For example, a man may discover a passion for gourmet cuisine after dates involving the preparation of elaborate meals. Alternatively, the size of your self-concept could shrink because the relationship has caused certain aspects of the self to be lost. This can happen because the relationship has caused you to neglect certain parts of yourself.
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Published on 2 Comments on Children Learn From Growing Things – Let Them Explore, Hey? It’s Good For Them.

I FOUND SOME GOOD FAMILY RELATED MATERIAL ON THE VICTORIAN GOVERNMENT WEBSITE THAT'S REALLY GREAT. I'VE BEEN RESEARCHING NATURE A LOT - OUR NEED FOR REGULAR EXPOSURE TO IT SOME WAY/WAYS THROUGH THE WEEK.

Children Love To Learn How To Grow Plants - Why Not Let Them Try? You May Be Surprised!

IN MY PRETEENS, I WAS FASCINATED BY PEAS AND BEANS EMMERGING THROUGH THE SOIL, WHEN MY MUM WAS TENDING HER VEGGIE GARDEN AND WOULD HAVE LOVED TO HAVE A FEW PLANTS OF MY OWN TO GROW. MY FEELINGS ABOUT THIS WERE NOT VOICED UNTIL I MENTIONED IT TO HER LATER IN LIFE (MY 40'S OR 50'S).

IN RESPONSE, SHE SAID "Oh Janet, you never said anything about it. I would have been happy to share some with you - I didn't think you were interested." I WAS ACTUALLY INTRIGUED. IT'S A GREAT INTEREST FOR KIDS OF DIFFERENT AGES, FROM LITTLE TO TEENS and A GOOD CONTRAST TO THEIR TECH INTERESTS - HELPING TO PROVIDE A BALANCE FOR THEM, HEY? AND HEALTH BENEFITS TO BE GAINED TOO, A WIN WIN!

The Government Says:

People of all ages can enjoy gardening, but children in particular will have lots of fun and gain special benefits. …