By Farley Ledgerwood
Is This You Or Your Parents? Healing From Traumas - It Is Possible!
Some wounds don’t end with the person who got hurt.
They get passed down—quietly, unconsciously—from parent to child. Not always through actions. Sometimes, it’s through words. Offhand phrases. Things said in anger or stress or fear. Words that, at the time, might have sounded like discipline or “tough love,” but left a mark that still lingers today.
I’ve heard these phrases in friends’ stories, in quiet confessions over coffee, and even from people who weren’t sure why certain memories still sting.
In most cases, the parents weren’t bad people. They were tired. Overwhelmed. Still hurting from things they never fully processed. And without realizing it, they handed some of that pain to the next generation.

Parents Need To Heal From Trauma
and So Do You
If you grew up hearing any of these phrases, you might have been raised by someone who never got the healing they needed. And that’s not about blame—it’s about understanding.
Because healing often begins with recognizing what we’ve absorbed—and deciding what we won’t pass on.
1. “Stop crying before I give you something to cry about”
It sends the message that your emotions are a threat.…






