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Published on Leave a comment on When Friendships Are Stressful: Some Things We Can Do That May Help You

By Janet Vargas - Owner Of This Website

Things You Can Do With Difficult Friendships

These are stressful days we are living in – there’s no doubt about that – and many people are becoming “Needs-Orientated” because they don’t have managing skills. These are Life Skills we all need to develop and some mistakenly expect others to have these Life Skills for them. Or worse still, they want to constantly Off-Load their problems on others as their way of coping or complaining about life and that is SIMPLY UNFAIR.

You have come to the right place if you have problematic friendships. I’ve had a few and I found what to do. Of necessity, it was a real awakening in recent years.

Because I was far too Caring, I did not “practice the Principles I needed to” for my sanity (so to speak) and Peace of Mind. Looking back now, that so sapped up my energies, I’ve not been able to do some things I had planned to do because my energies were somewhat drained. They called themselves Friends but they needed a good spanking – they did not take responsibility for mistakes they were making and leaned much of their weight on me!…

Published on Leave a comment on Finding Validation: Who From? We Can Practice These Things And Feel Better Gradually.

Acceptance, everyone needs it. We are all wired for love, acceptance and approval. We all have those rights, some of us are conscious of those needs being met, others are not – it depends on our upbringing, how our emotions were formed, if our basic needs for affection and attention were met. However, there are things we can do.

Learning to develop a loving disposition towards ourselves in life is important these days rather than seeking validation from those who may not give it or fail to give it. Not everyone is inclined to give validation to others, some don’t think to express that. Often their thoughts are somewhere else (for whatever reason, it is not necessarily intentional) they may be thinking of what they have to say and fail to be attune to who they are conversing with half the time, and believe it or not, they may be concerned with finding their own validation sometimes.

Many people have a Co-Dependent relationship where they seek validation constantly from each-other, not often finding it – that can be a constant source of frustration.

For those who have not heard of this term before, validation is basically approval from others.…

Published on Leave a comment on Managing Thoughts That Stick And Won’t Budge – Need Some Help With Those?

HAS ANYONE OUT THERE NOTICED THAT CERTAIN SITUATION OR RELATIONAL THOUGHTS HAVE A LIFESPAN OF 2-3 DAYS BEFORE THEY WEAR OFF AND GIVE US SOME PEACE? I HAVE SOMETIMES THROUGH THE YEARS. AND WHEN YOU'RE AWARE OF THIS, YOU CAN BIDE YOUR TIME AND RELAX, KNOWING MOST TIMES, IT WILL GO AWAY OF IT'S OWN ACCORD IF WE DON'T INDULGE IN THOSE THOUGHTS AND TIE OURSELVES UP IN KNOTS. IT'S HELPFUL TO KNOW HOW SHORT THE LIFE-SPAN OF THOSE THOUGHTS (like an obsession) WILL BE. ALSO, YOU CAN FIND WAYS OF DEALING WITH BOTHERSOME THOUGHTS (on a certain day) RIGHT HERE. I DID SOME RESEARCH ON THESE AND WILL SHOW YOU WHAT I FOUND.

Ways To Let Go Of Stuck Thoughts

By Therese J. Borchard  from Psychcentral.Com

Stuck thoughts… the brick walls that form a prison around your mind. The harder you try to get rid of them, the more powerful they become.

I’ve been wrestling with stuck thoughts ever since I was in fourth grade. The content or nature of the obsessions have morphed into many different animals over the course of 30-plus years, but their intensity and frequency remains unchanged.

Here are some strategies I use when they make a surprise visit, techniques that help me free myself from their hold.…

Published on Leave a comment on 30 Ways to Be a Nicer Person – See If You Find Some Right For You!

By David and Daniela Naidu

THESE ARE GOOD QUALITIES TO QUIZ OURSELVES ON AND PRACTICE. ALSO TO BRING OUR KIDS UP WITH. WE ARE LIVING IN A 2ND AND 3RD GENERATION OF BUSY WORKING PARENTS - MANY OF US HAVE MISSED OUT ON HAVING PARENTS WHO EXPRESSED THEMSELVES LIKE THIS WITH US. AND MAYBE WE HAVE NOT THOUGHT OF INSTILLING THESE PRINCIPLES INTO OUR KIDS. AS THE ADAGE SAYS "BETTER LATE THAN NEVER'' FOR US ALL TO EXPERIENCE THESE PRECIOUS TRAITS. THEY ARE GOOD WAYS TO EXPERIENCE GOOD QUALITY FRIENDSHIPS TOO.

It's Cool To Be Kind - Refresh Someone's Spirit Today - Surprise Yourself, Hey?

I JUST LOVE THIS ARTICLE AND WOULD LIKE TO ENCOURAGE YOU TO READ IT
AND SELECT A FEW THINGS TO TRY, HEY?

Almost everyone in this world likes to be in the company of a nice person. Nice people are a joy to be around, they inspire others and make the people they are with feel good about themselves. People who are nice have good friends.

Be Punctual
Being punctual for an appointment is one important way to be a nicer person. It demonstrates to the other person that you have respect for his or her time.…

Published on Leave a comment on 5 Innovative Ideas Across The World: Extending the Hand Of Kindness, Hey?

HERE IN THIS POST, YOU WILL SEE A FEW REALLY INTERESTING IDEAS AROUND THE WORLD AND ONE OF THEM HAS GAINED OUR INTEREST HERE IN AUSTRALIA - THERE ARE A FEW BRANCHES IN DIFFERENT LOCATIONS. I BET YOU CAN'T GUESS! IT STARTED IN A SMALL WAY WITH A CARING PRACTICLE PERSON WITH A PASSIONATE VISION TO HELP OTHERS AND IT DRAWS A LOT OF PEOPLE TO SOME OF THESE VENUES. I PERSONALLY WITNESSED ONE OF THESE OCCASIONS LAST YEAR AND CONVERSED WITH SOME OF THE FOLK WHO WERE THERE. IT WAS QUITE EXCITING FINDING THEM THERE UNPRESIDENTED, BECAUSE I KNEW ABOUT THE ORGINAL ONE YOU WILL SEE ON THIS PAGE. I WILL ADD MORE SHORT STORIES AS I FIND THEM. ENJOY!

French Post Workers Help The Elderly

“It’s lovely to see the postman as I don’t usually see anyone else all week,” says 81-year-old Janine. She’s enjoying a French postal service initiative that’s helping elderly people living in isolation far from relatives.

Under the scheme, called “Watch over my parents” (Veiller sur mes parents), families can pay from €20 a month for postmen and postwomen to check on their parents during morning rounds.…

Published on Leave a comment on There Is Nothing Like A Walk If You Haven’t Tried It. 20 – 30 Mins Is OK. You May Enjoy!

WALK FOR PLEASURE OR LEISURE AND TAKE IN SOME FRESH AIR OR SUNSHINE. IT MAKES YOU FEEL GOOD AND IT'S GREAT FOR YOUR HEALTH. THE 1O,000 STEPS THEY SAID YOU HAVE TO DO HAS NOW BEEN PROVEN WRONG - NOT EVERYONE IS UP TO THAT - 5,000 TO 8,000 STEPS IF YOU'RE KEEN FOR BEST RESULTS, RESEARCH NOW REVEALS. IN FACT, SOME RESEARCHERS ARE SAYING THAT EVEN 15 MIN WALKS CONFER SOME BENEFITS OR 2 OR 3 TEN MINUTE WALKS IN A DAY. THERE IS SO MUCH SAID BY PHYSIOS AND CHIROS, NEUROSCIENTISTS AND PSYCHOLOGISTS ABOUT OUR NEED TO KEEP MOVING OFTEN THROUGH THE DAY FOR OUR HEALTH'S SAKE - SEDENTARY LIVING WITH VERY LITTLE MOVEMENT CAN SET US UP FOR HEALTH CONDITIONS WE DON'T WANT. BUT SOME 'EXPERTS' HAVE MADE THINGS SOUND COMPLICATED OR LOTS OF HARD WORK AND IT REALLY ISN'T AT ALL. TAKE A SIMPLE APPROACH YOU CAN STAY WITH AND DO ENJOY!

Walking In The Park - Enjoying Nature

The 7 Health Benefits Of Walking Just 20 Minutes A Day

Start walking!

By Carina Wolff   2016 - SimpleMost.Com

Exercising has many benefits beyond weight loss, but many people skip out on workouts because they can’t seem to find the time to fit it in.…

Published on Leave a comment on The Science Of Making, Breaking And Replacing Habits

ABC Science By science reporter Belinda Smith

4th January 2021

Welp, after what felt like the longest year ever, it's 2021. And with the new year often comes resolutions — maybe more so this time round.

Perhaps you want to lose some of those "corona-kilos" or simply maintain the good hygiene behaviours drummed into us during the pandemic.

There are ways to develop good habits — and make them stick — that are backed by scientific evidence.

And it all begins — where else? — in the brain. But first: what even are habits, and why do we need them?

We Really Are Creatures Of Habit

A substantial chunk of daily life is made up of habitual actions. This is the stuff where once you get going, you pretty much run on autopilot.

A classic example is driving to work (back when regular commuting was a thing). You might remember getting in your car and then suddenly, you're pulling into your office's car park.

But the first few times you drove to work were a different story. They required more brain power: planning and memorising the best route to your destination, paying attention to your surroundings and thinking harder about your actions and their consequences.…

Published on Leave a comment on 3 Exercises That Build Mental Strength In Just 5 Minutes A Day – Two Great Articles!

By Amy Morin

Mental Strength Trainer And Host Of The Mentally Strong People Podcast

Whether you’re tempted to give in to that craving for a cupcake, or you’re about to give up on your goals, perseverance isn’t easy. But before you blame your lack of God-given willpower and before you make an excuse for your less than stellar performance, consider this; it only takes a few minutes a day to build the mental muscle you need to reach your greatest potential.

Building mental strength is similar to building physical strength. Doing 50 push ups a day would only take a few minutes of your time, but doing it consistently would help you build a tremendous amount of upper body strength.

The same can be said with your mental muscle. In just a few minutes each day, you can train your brain to think differently, manage your emotions, and behave productively. With consistent exercise, you’ll build mental strength.

While there are many exercises that can help you grow stronger, here are three exercises that will help you build mental muscle in five minutes or less:

1. Identify three things you’re grateful for.…

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Published on 1 Comment on Bunny Language And Memory – Learning The Secrets Helps With Bonding

IF YOU'RE CONSIDERING HAVING A BUNNY FOR A PET OR ALREADY HAVE ONE, IT IS GOOD TO KNOW THESE THINGS. BUNNIES HAVE A LANGUAGE OF THEIR OWN, JUST LIKE WE DO, AND OTHER CREATURES.

THIS POST WILL HELP YOU TO UNDERSTAND THE LITTLE MOVEMENTS THEY MAKE - HOW TO INTERPRET THEM AND ALSO DESCRIBES THEIR MEMORIES. BUNNIES HAVE GOOD MEMORIES, SO WE NEED TO BE CAREFUL. READING THESE TWO ARTICLES FROM Petsial.Com WILL HELP YOU RELATE AND BOND WITH YOUR BUNNY/BUNNIES. THEY ARE VERY DIFFERENT TO PUPPIES AND KITTENS - BUNNY BONDING IS SO IMPORTANT, THEY CAN LEARN TO TRUST YOU BETTER WHEN YOU ARE SENSITIVE TO THEIR NEEDS.

Ways to Speak Rabbit and Communicate with Your Bunny

For the sake of this post, keep in mind that we are focused on reading your rabbits language and signs that they are showing you or trying to communicate.

The Importance of Bunny Communication

Recognizing these signals and communications from your rabbit is 100% necessary and an obligation of yours and yours only.

Bunnies are extremely social and have basic needs as we do.

Ignoring specific signals or behaviors may leave your bunny feeling neglected or not loved.…

Published on Leave a comment on Camping in Nature Helps You Sleep Better – Here’s To Nature!

NOT EVERYONE CAN TAKE ADVANTAGE OF THIS AT THE PRESENT TIME, BUT FOR THOSE WHO CAN, WHY NOT GIVE IT A TRY? AND THIS WILL BE SOMETHING SOME OF US CAN LOOK FORWARD TO, HEY? CAMPING IS A FAVORITE TO MANY AND A NICE DISCOVERY IF YOU HAVE NEVER TRIED IT.

Camping Has the Power to Reset Our Internal Clocks

For diehard campers, no one needs to tell them how beneficial sleeping underneath the stars can be. The combination of peaceful tranquility, fresh air and connection with nature is enough to cure the effects of the 9-5. New research is backing up this intuition, suggesting that taking a time out from our busy, technology-soaked lives can help reset our internal clocks so we can literally rest more easily.

Researchers from the University of Colorado in Boulder set out on a six day camping trip in the Rocky Mountains, sans smartphones and any other illuminating tools. For the duration of the trip, the campers only utilized daylight and the glow of their campfire. The result was the group going to sleep an average of two and a half hours earlier than they would at home and getting ten hours of sleep each night.…