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By Janet Vargas - Owner Of This Website

Things You Can Do With Difficult Friendships

These are stressful days we are living in – there’s no doubt about that – and many people are becoming “Needs-Orientated” because they don’t have managing skills. These are Life Skills we all need to develop and some mistakenly expect others to have these Life Skills for them. Or worse still, they want to constantly Off-Load their problems on others as their way of coping or complaining about life and that is SIMPLY UNFAIR.

You have come to the right place if you have problematic friendships. I’ve had a few and I found what to do. Of necessity, it was a real awakening in recent years.

Because I was far too Caring, I did not “practice the Principles I needed to” for my sanity (so to speak) and Peace of Mind. Looking back now, that so sapped up my energies, I’ve not been able to do some things I had planned to do because my energies were somewhat drained. They called themselves Friends but they needed a good spanking – they did not take responsibility for mistakes they were making and leaned much of their weight on me!…

By Janet Vargas - Owner Of This Website

Was there some way you felt unnoticed in your upbringing? Some of us experienced that with Teachers, an Aunty and Uncle, a big Brother or Sister but others have had rough beginnings with their Parents - believe it or not - who took very little notice of them and did not show much affection. This is something I've felt very passionate about since the 80's.

If you were neglected in some way as a child - unnoticed or lacking affection - I really feel for you because I experienced a sudden change at a young age of a different but similar nature, that left me decidedly empty and unfulfilled. Parents, please give each child your best in life. You may not have much else to give them materially speaking but please give them the "Best of You!" Lots of hugs, some undivided interest each day and some laughter in the Home are the Best Gifts and Start in Life you can give them - other things are not so important.

You need to apologise to your kids and change your ways if you don't.…

Forgiveness: Jesus encouraged this in His Counsel To Us And In The Life He Lived Among Us 33 Years. It Is Probably Taken To Be A Religious Exercise By Most People Who Have Not Experienced It. However, The Grace And Freedom Found In Forgiveness Is Not Limited To Christians. In Fact, I Have Known A Few To Be Unforgiving, Who Do Not Reflect Jesus’ Manner. Psychologists Are Excited With The Newfound  Discovery That Forgiveness Benefits Our Health – Mentally, Emotionally And Even Physically. They Are Recording Good Results, Sometimes Surprising.

These Days, Neuroscientists Tell Us That Unhealthy Attitudes – With Emotions That Accompany Them – Can Make You Sick, Mentally Or Physically. So The Positive Is That Letting Go Of Unforgiveness Can Bring Healing And Sometimes Peace, Letting Go Of Anger Can Restore Your Joy Or Even Relieve Depression, Letting Go Of Resentment Has Been Known To Ease Symptoms Of Arthritis Etc. Why Not Read These Two Articles I Found On The Net Recently? This Principle If Practiced Could Be A Good Asset To Your Health, Your Family And Friendships.

Why Should You Forgive Someone? Though Not A Favourite Topic To Some Of Us,  In The Positive Sense, You May Find Some Real Clues For Better Health Reading This Post.…

HAS ANYONE OUT THERE NOTICED THAT CERTAIN SITUATION OR RELATIONAL THOUGHTS HAVE A LIFESPAN OF 2-3 DAYS BEFORE THEY WEAR OFF AND GIVE US SOME PEACE? I HAVE SOMETIMES THROUGH THE YEARS. AND WHEN YOU'RE AWARE OF THIS, YOU CAN BIDE YOUR TIME AND RELAX, KNOWING MOST TIMES, IT WILL GO AWAY OF IT'S OWN ACCORD IF WE DON'T INDULGE IN THOSE THOUGHTS AND TIE OURSELVES UP IN KNOTS. IT'S HELPFUL TO KNOW HOW SHORT THE LIFE-SPAN OF THOSE THOUGHTS (like an obsession) WILL BE. ALSO, YOU CAN FIND WAYS OF DEALING WITH BOTHERSOME THOUGHTS (on a certain day) RIGHT HERE. I DID SOME RESEARCH ON THESE AND WILL SHOW YOU WHAT I FOUND.

Ways To Let Go Of Stuck Thoughts

By Therese J. Borchard  from Psychcentral.Com

Stuck thoughts… the brick walls that form a prison around your mind. The harder you try to get rid of them, the more powerful they become.

I’ve been wrestling with stuck thoughts ever since I was in fourth grade. The content or nature of the obsessions have morphed into many different animals over the course of 30-plus years, but their intensity and frequency remains unchanged.

Here are some strategies I use when they make a surprise visit, techniques that help me free myself from their hold.…

By David and Daniela Naidu

THESE ARE GOOD QUALITIES TO QUIZ OURSELVES ON AND PRACTICE. ALSO TO BRING OUR KIDS UP WITH. WE ARE LIVING IN A 2ND AND 3RD GENERATION OF BUSY WORKING PARENTS - MANY OF US HAVE MISSED OUT ON HAVING PARENTS WHO EXPRESSED THEMSELVES LIKE THIS WITH US. AND MAYBE WE HAVE NOT THOUGHT OF INSTILLING THESE PRINCIPLES INTO OUR KIDS. AS THE ADAGE SAYS "BETTER LATE THAN NEVER'' FOR US ALL TO EXPERIENCE THESE PRECIOUS TRAITS. THEY ARE GOOD WAYS TO EXPERIENCE GOOD QUALITY FRIENDSHIPS TOO.

It's Cool To Be Kind - Refresh Someone's Spirit Today - Surprise Yourself, Hey?

I JUST LOVE THIS ARTICLE AND WOULD LIKE TO ENCOURAGE YOU TO READ IT
AND SELECT A FEW THINGS TO TRY, HEY?

Almost everyone in this world likes to be in the company of a nice person. Nice people are a joy to be around, they inspire others and make the people they are with feel good about themselves. People who are nice have good friends.

Be Punctual
Being punctual for an appointment is one important way to be a nicer person. It demonstrates to the other person that you have respect for his or her time.…

I knew someone who has experienced this with someone at her church for some time believe it or not. There are a few gossips and busybodies there too. It is evident to me that none of these offenders have a real relationship with Jesus – to be acquainted with Him is reflected in love for others and appropriate conduct. If someone has unseemly behavior, something is wrong – sometimes you have to ask yourself if they really know Jesus? Maybe not!

The Following Advice "in quotation marks" is from James George (The rest is from me) He is a caring person with some good insights.

"No matter what we do in life, there can be someone at some stage who has something negative to say but some people like to tear others down, not just you – please remember this. Sometimes they find every fault that you have and exploit it to make you feel bad about yourself. They want to demolish someone’s confidence. It’s frustrating to hurt your feelings and it makes you feel like you’re insignificant. So why does this happen? Why do people feel like they have to tear others down and make them feel bad?"…

WALK FOR PLEASURE OR LEISURE AND TAKE IN SOME FRESH AIR OR SUNSHINE. IT MAKES YOU FEEL GOOD AND IT'S GREAT FOR YOUR HEALTH. THE 1O,000 STEPS THEY SAID YOU HAVE TO DO HAS NOW BEEN PROVEN WRONG - NOT EVERYONE IS UP TO THAT - 5,000 TO 8,000 STEPS IF YOU'RE KEEN FOR BEST RESULTS, RESEARCH NOW REVEALS. IN FACT, SOME RESEARCHERS ARE SAYING THAT EVEN 15 MIN WALKS CONFER SOME BENEFITS OR 2 OR 3 TEN MINUTE WALKS IN A DAY. THERE IS SO MUCH SAID BY PHYSIOS AND CHIROS, NEUROSCIENTISTS AND PSYCHOLOGISTS ABOUT OUR NEED TO KEEP MOVING OFTEN THROUGH THE DAY FOR OUR HEALTH'S SAKE - SEDENTARY LIVING WITH VERY LITTLE MOVEMENT CAN SET US UP FOR HEALTH CONDITIONS WE DON'T WANT. BUT SOME 'EXPERTS' HAVE MADE THINGS SOUND COMPLICATED OR LOTS OF HARD WORK AND IT REALLY ISN'T AT ALL. TAKE A SIMPLE APPROACH YOU CAN STAY WITH AND DO ENJOY!

Walking In The Park - Enjoying Nature

The 7 Health Benefits Of Walking Just 20 Minutes A Day

Start walking!

By Carina Wolff   2016 - SimpleMost.Com

Exercising has many benefits beyond weight loss, but many people skip out on workouts because they can’t seem to find the time to fit it in.…

ABC Science By science reporter Belinda Smith

4th January 2021

Welp, after what felt like the longest year ever, it's 2021. And with the new year often comes resolutions — maybe more so this time round.

Perhaps you want to lose some of those "corona-kilos" or simply maintain the good hygiene behaviours drummed into us during the pandemic.

There are ways to develop good habits — and make them stick — that are backed by scientific evidence.

And it all begins — where else? — in the brain. But first: what even are habits, and why do we need them?

We Really Are Creatures Of Habit

A substantial chunk of daily life is made up of habitual actions. This is the stuff where once you get going, you pretty much run on autopilot.

A classic example is driving to work (back when regular commuting was a thing). You might remember getting in your car and then suddenly, you're pulling into your office's car park.

But the first few times you drove to work were a different story. They required more brain power: planning and memorising the best route to your destination, paying attention to your surroundings and thinking harder about your actions and their consequences.…

IF YOU HAVE BEEN MISSING HUGS WITH YOUR LOVED ONES, THERE IS A REALLY NIFTY IDEA THAT A NURSING HOME IN BRAZIL CAME UP WITH WHICH STARTED A CRAZE. IN THIS POST, YOU WILL SEE THE ARTICLE AND A FEW YOUTUBE LINKS FROM DIFFERENT PEOPLE WHO TRIED THIS. EVERYONE LOVES THESE STORIES - ME ESPECIALLY. SHALL WE GO?

"Hug Curtains" Keeping Families Close

SEE THEM ALL ON GOOGLE IMAGES - LOTS OF DIFFERENT ONES WITH NICE STORIES AND VIDEOS. ENJOY!

The COVID-19 pandemic has been especially hard on elderly people, a Senior Home in Brazil Creates ‘Hug Tunnel’ So Visitors Can Embrace Their Loved Ones

By Good News Network -Jun 24, 2020

 Good News Network

Many have been advised to strictly adhere to stay-at-home orders and social distancing guidelines.

For those living in care facilities, this has meant that friends and loved ones cannot even visit them in person.

But, a care home in Brazil has come up with a creative solution, allowing seniors to connect with their loved ones while still keeping them safe from infection.

For 28 seniors living in isolation since March 17 at the Três Figueiras home in Rio Grande do Sul in Brazil, Mother’s Day came and went without any visitors—and the loving staff noticed that spirits were at an all-time low.…

By Gennady Musher MD, PhD  2018

First the good news about all the bad news you might be reading and seeing these days: Bad news cannot cause depression. Depression is a complex biological illness, and in my professional practice as a psychiatrist, I have seen nothing to suggest that depression rates are rising in a response to the barrage of negative stories we’re hearing and seeing in the media these days. And none of the copious research on depression has concluded that it can be caused by exposure to negative media.

The roots of depression go deeper than environmental factors. After all, some people can suffer trauma and go on to live a normal life, while other people might become depressed over seemingly slight setbacks. Our responses to life’s vicissitudes are determined by the interaction of biology and environment — nature and nurture — and are as individual as each of us.

Choose Wisely - There Are Options!

However, if you’re predisposed to depression or are already in the throes of it, you may find that a lot of time spent absorbing the news — through television, newspapers, or online — can make you feel worse.…